So, my FH and I found a venue we loved and were all in on. The max we can host there is 100 people, including ourselves. We told our parents and were really excited, but then my mom dropped the bomb of inviting more people. She has a group of cousins that I don't see unless there is a funeral, and they have never met my FH and probably don't even know his name. I have not seen one of the cousins in over 10 years. My mom wants me to invite them and their plus ones. Mind you, my parents' friend list is more than my own. I started looking at other venues to accommodate them, but nothing is what I envisioned and we keep getting surprises when we go to sign with other venues like they won't accept credit cards.
Basically, I just feel like all signs point back to I should do what I wanted to originally. My FH won't even go and look at venues anymore because he feels like we were on the same team until my mother ripped apart our happiness and plans for moving forward with that venue. My mom even told me that my wedding is about her and that her cousins would go to see her because she raised me. So, with that insane logic, I feel even more inclined to do what I want now. My parents are helping pay for a little less than half of the wedding and they're not very eager to give us the funds, and we're footing the majority of the bill. I feel like they can have a say in who they want there but they need to be okay with some people not getting invited. I told them I wanted a small intimate wedding and they don't seem to grasp that.
I don't know what to do or how to approach the topic anymore, but I'm fed up and I want the venue that my FH and I fell in love with, not the one that will accommodate my parents' friends and distant cousins. How can I address this?
