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Just Said Yes August 2019

How to respond to no rsvp

Ebony, on June 16, 2019 at 8:52 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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So this may seem really weird, mean or just plain unheard of butttttttttttt here it goes....We have mailed out the RSVPs with return postage stamps so there really isn’t any excuse for people not to return them with accept or decline. We also have a website that you may use to RSVP. We are thinking of giving about a week past snail mail to receive the RSVPs which I think is fair. We are considering creating a thank you for considering attending our wedding card to send to those who did not RSVP by the date. Saying something like our RSVP date has passed and we appreciate you considering attending our special day however the guest list has been finalized but we do hope you can join us at our one year anniversary celebration.......feedback or ideas on how to let people know they didn’t respond please don’t come

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Latest activity by MrsD, on June 17, 2019 at 12:20 PM

Champion October 2018
Kelly · on June 16, 2019 at 8:54 PM
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This seems petty and I don’t think it’s a good idea. There are a lot of reasons for why people might not have RSVP’d and it doesn’t take that long to send a quick text to ask if they’re coming a couple days after the due date has passed.
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on June 16, 2019 at 8:55 PM
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I think that sending like a “thanks anyway” card seems a little passive aggressive lol, and a little more effort than it’s worth!

i would contact people a day or two after the deadline, tell them you need them to let you know one way or another by x date, and if they don’t respond by then you’ll have to mark them down as a no
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on June 16, 2019 at 8:58 PM
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Yeah, no. This is a waste of your time and money and frankly pretty petty. Reach out to them over the phone (for free) and say “our rsvp deadline was x day and we noticed that we haven’t received yours back. Our final head count is due y day. If we don’t receive a response by then, we will assume that you’re unable to attend.”
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on June 17, 2019 at 12:20 PM
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I wouldn't do this, it seems rude in my opinion. We sent out addressed & stamped RSVP envelopes & gave guests the option to RSVP online. Guests had our invites for 6 weeks before they had to respond. Our RSVP date came and we still hadn't heard from 61 people. We had to reach out to all of them (between me, my fiance, his father, and my mother it wasn't bad - maybe 20 households total). We are now 1 week past and I'm waiting on 20 people as of this morning (15 as of right now). I had to text the 20 people we hadn't heard from again, and just told them if we don't hear from them I'll count them as a no. It's just part of the wedding planning process, everyone won't RSVP no matter how hard you make it. It's frustrating, but wedding planning is in general.
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