how to remember lost loved ones? memorial table?

I don't know.. now i am thinking of just doing 4 charms on my bouquet... for his mom, my brother, my grandma, and my grandpa..... that with all the lavender in honor of Ruby and skipping the whole memorial table for "everyone that has passed".. just thinking maybe it would be too much otherwise.

I was planning to have something that said:

We know you would be here if heaven weren't so far away, and the list the names. My dad and step-dad, his mother and brother.

I am going to have a memory table with many picture frames on it because I am 47 and my parents were older when they had me. I have lost a significant amount of my family and so has my FH so we are going to incorporate the memory table and at the beginning of the reception lite the unity candle which will be located on the memory table. I don't consider it depressing or a downer or negative. The family members on the memory table are just present in spirit only.

I was thinking the same thing...I lost one of my best friends when she died giving birth to her third son...she played an important part in my life...I was going to raise a toast to her and leave a chair empty for her...the same goes for my cousin who I lost to a pedestrian accident in 2003 and an aunt who died of colon cancer in 2006 and a aunt who died of brain cancer in 2009

We are doing a memorial table with pictures of his dad, grandfather and my grandfather. We just kept it to parents and grandparents who have passed because all of our great grandparents have passed and so has many aunts/uncles...just felt it would get too much if we had pictures of ALL of them, so we just did immediate family. However, in the opening of the ceremony, something will be said to recognize those who cannot be there physically.

We are going to do something for FH mom she died of cancer on 05 and our son who passed in 09

Your idea is a good way to honor them. Not too much to have 9 small frames.

I plan on incorporating my dad into my bouquet or actual ceremony in some small way. I am having my step-dad walk me down the aisle in appreciation for his done for me in the 9-10 years he's been in my life.

For my memere I'm thinking about having the reception at a place she used to work (the place is really pretty and right near where the ceremony is probably going to be).

We're also going to have in lieu of flowers/gift we're going to have things set up to donate money to heart health (my dad) and cancer (my memere and his grandma who is still with us but had a major brush with death due to cancer).

Little things are all you need.

We are planning a memorial table. I was thinking about doing picture frames too but we have alot of members of the family that have passed on...

For example... My Grandparents, His Grandparents, His Dad (most recent) Like 3 Uncles of mine, 1 Aunt

And now after reading some of these comments I like the idea of like a frame with a Photo or piece of paper stating in Loving Memory and knowing you are looking down on us today or something like that with the names of people who have passed and maybe putting a few rose petals and candles on the table...

Rather than have everyone's pictures concentrated at one table for our 40-person wedding, we decided to spread them out in the two main rooms of the manor house of our venue. Everyone was in those rooms for cocktail hour, cooling off as needed throughout the reception, and cake cutting/eating. We included photos of deceased relatives as well as close relatives (FH's parents, etc.) who could not attend. We explained this and acknowledged the close relatives who could not be present (for both reasons) in our program fans. I also had a charm of my grandpa (who I'd always figured would walk me down the aisle) and wore my grandma's necklace.

What about doing a collage of all your fave pics of all of them, and a nice quote in the middle, this way it doesnt look like a shrine but everyone is honored

I like Katie L's idea.

Lots of great ideas! Thank u so much! I will either do small frames of them individually or I do like Katie's idea of doing a collage of all of them.. maybe having pictures of us with them

The collage idea is great! We have a lot of family we would like to honor also. Instead of pics, we are doing personalized candles on memory table.

Most of my bridal clients add a little paragraph in memory of their loved ones on the back of their ceremony programs.

I think the challenging thing is balancing the act of honoring them and but still celebrating your own happy occasion. Not sure how many guest tables you will be having at your reception, but how about using the names of the loved ones for table assignments?