Sarah
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How to politely say no??

Sarah, on March 20, 2020 at 8:30 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10
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My bridesmaid (who by god I love to death, but doesn't have quite the same tastes as I do), just offered to make me either a bracelet or an anklet to wear on my wedding day. She said she doesn't want to tell me exactly what it would look like and she wants to keep it a surprise. Part of me just wants to tell her to make it an anklet so whatever it looks like no one will see it (which seems really mean?) But I really don't like anklets very much...



I want to be nice, and I don't want to seem like a bridezilla, but this is my wedding day and I really want to look exactly the way I envision. I really appreciate her offering, and I don't want to hurt her feelings... What should I say to her?

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Latest activity by Angel, on March 31, 2020 at 6:16 PM
  • Carly
    Devoted October 2020
    Carly ·
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    I would just tell her to make the anklet - that way you don’t hurt her feelings & it won’t mess with the image you’re going for. Even if I didn’t care for anklets, I’d suck it up for one day. Lol. My future mother in law bought me a sapphire bracelet for my birthday. Thank god I like it, because I’m sure she bought it with the intention of me wearing it as my something blue.
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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
    Samantha ·
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    I totally agree. If you don’t want to wear the bracelet tell her you already know what you want to do for that (even if that means not wearing one), but I don’t see why you can’t wear the anklet. No one will see it. It won’t be in pictures. It’s important to someone you love, I’d let her do it. If that’s still not an option, could you wrap it around the bouquet or wear it to the dress rehearsal?
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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
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    Ha, rehearsal dinner. Not dress rehearsal.
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  • Emily
    Super August 2020
    Emily ·
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    I’d either say anklet or tell her you’ve already got a specific look in mind for your jewelry but she can make you something you’ll wear after the wedding 🥰
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  • Jasmine
    Devoted May 2021
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    Oh tell her to make it an anklet I don’t have one for my honeymoon look
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    I think the anklet is a really good idea. It would make her feel so special and happy but no one would see it lol
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  • Rowena
    Beginner March 2021
    Rowena ·
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    Maybe she can make you a garter instead? Or she can decorate you toss bouquet so you don’t have to end up with it. Lol. I would go for an anklet but tell her it has to be blue and the materials have to be borrowed. 😊 Again, I kid. I would be honest and tell her it’s really sweet but you already have all of the accessories you want to wear on your wedding day. It would be great if she can make you a bracelet you can wear during your honeymoon. Good luck!
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  • Holly
    Savvy April 2022
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    Maybe ask her to make somthing for your honeymoon? Like "oh! We are going to ___ and I want to look good for ____. I LOVE YOU to make me something for that"
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  • L
    Super October 2020
    Leslie ·
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    You sure you’re not wearing something of your grandmothers. 😉.

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  • Angel
    Expert August 2020
    Angel ·
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    I would just let her know that you've already picked out your wedding day jewelry but would love for her to still make you one to have as a little gift. (Even if you won't ever wear it lol)

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