How to politely say "No Young Children Please!"

So what would you do if a family has a 10 and a 9 year old? If you're gonna be age specific it would be better to just say no kids or kids who are in the ceremony only. Either way prepare yourself for some to decline

It doesn't go anywhere. Address your invitations to the specific people invited: John and Jane Doe. Include an RSVP card that states something along the line of "We have reserved _ seats in your honor" and YOU fill in the number of seats reserved. You will get some who include their children on the RSVP. You'll need to call and explain that the kids weren't included in the invite. Some will be miffed by this and I will never understand that.

You definitely can't invite only half of the children from a family.

In my opinion, unless they are family, it's either an adult wedding or it's not.

So I guess without understanding our guest list the age line seems a little nonspecific. I should clarify that we each have two cousins that are over 10 that we specifically want there and that's it (we have small families). Other children under ten would be situations such as a friend of ours who recently had a baby, inviting a boss who has children around age 3-6, toddler/infant children of a second cousin, etc.

If you don't want a certain couple to bring their children just put "Mr and Mrs. Whoever" on their invitation and only include 2 rsvps with it.

Otherwise you would say "The whoever family" and all of their kids, wether they are 2 or 16 are included in that.

Although some people will unfortunately still end up bringing their kids with them without saying anything about it.

The only thing you can guarantee with wedding planning is that everyone will have an opinion and you won't like some of those opinions. We aren't inviting kids to the DW but are to the local reception. Address invites to those who are actually invited. We did make mention on the website that we understand if anyone can't join us but family are welcome at the local reception. No push back but only two couple out of 13 have kids. One hasn't rsvp'd but we discussed that together before we sent out the invites and are ok if they'd rather come to the local reception and bring the kids.

Nichole, you can put "# seats saved in your honour" and specify Mr.... Ms.... on the RSVP card. If people add kids in then you can call them and clarify. That's how it works.

Are there any non-family kids that you are inviting (or want to invite)? You could just tell anyone that asks that the only kids invited are family. That might be easier to explain than an age cut off.