How to Please Everyone

Simply... you don't. Someone will always take offense and be inconvenienced somewhere. That being said, you can compromise and communicate so that everyone is on the same page.

You can have a 'vegas' wedding, and maybe have a big party celebrating the wedding. Or you can have two weddings - one just for you, and one for the family. You can also consider having a large engagement party and then doing the elopement at your convenience. At the end of the day, this about celebrating the marriage. Not about appeasing others.

Otherwise, maybe talk to his parents about finding a place equal difference from both parents. That seems only reasonable (no matter what direction you choose to go in). Yes, it's more traveling and more frustration planning, but it also doesn't give favoritism to one family of origin over another.

As my father-in-law kept saying, "this is your wedding, your day. Do what you want. Just keep in mind the comfort levels of your guest as well." In this case, the comfort of your family.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for the response! I know this is something that everyone goes through I'm sure, but it just feels like everyone wants to pull you in every direction.

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You're welcome... and I definitely understand. I had to get use to saying 'no' so much to my side of the family, it was really annoying. My sister kept saying, "the wedding is for everyone else- not you!" .. stark contrast to my father-in-law, huh!? >.<

Anyways, decide what you are not budging on and what can be compromised. If Vegas is the dream, then Vegas is non-negotiable. Don't try to explain or defend yourself, it never works. Just stick to whatever boundaries you and your FS set. The flexibility should be around areas where you two are willing to compromise.

View Quoted Comment Totally agree!
PS Vegas/Elvis is one of my vow renewal dreams!

You can’t please everyone. It’s your wedding, go to Vegas! Those who care and want to celebrate with you will make the trip.

It's hard to please everyone. everyone for weddings especially, always seem to have an opinion of their own and forget that it's not based on their choice.

do what you want.

but it seems like your family wants a wedding so they can participate and witness it too so maybe instead of an all out wedding, just have something small for just the families.

also, i think 1.5 hours away isn't too bad because people are usually willing to travel that much for weddings. most of the times weddings i go to are like an hour at least away from me but i don't mind because it's an important event

Bruh. Elvis wedding is laif!!! I am so sorry for all that.. It is your wedding try and get an Elvis impersonator? You know, make it your own?

Can you elope in Vegas, then have a reception later at a halfway point between your family & his?

You don’t. This is your day. You have no obligation to make anyone happy but you and your FH.

Sadly, you can't make everyone happy. Do what you and FH want for your special day!

If y'all don't want that sort of wedding, then don't do it. You will never be able to please everyone, so the best thing to do is to have the wedding y'all want. If that means eloping in Vegas, then that is what y'all should do. His family will get over it. If they ask, simply tell them that y'all can't afford to do the type of wedding they are asking for, so y'all are going with what makes y'all happy.