How to plan a vow renewal ceremony/reception

You would pretty much plan it the exact same way as a wedding, you just don't need a legitimate officiant since you're already married.

So a white dress is fine? A walk with my father down the aisle? First dance? Those are all okay?

I've read so many negative things about what should/shouldn't be done.

You can do whatever you want. If you want to wear white and do all of the traditional stuff, go for it! Just because its a vow renewal doesn't mean its any less special.

Those are all absolutely fine. The only things that you shouldn't do are prewedding events like a bridal shower or a bachelorette party since you're already married and no longer a bride.

Yeah that seems understandable. I wouldn't want one, we don't plan on making a registry or accepting gifts. It is truly just for us to celebrate with family in a way we didn't get the chance to. I just wasn't sure if it was proper to throw a "wedding" style party or if it should be more casual.

We are doing a vow renewal in 2020 for his 61 birthday. It was supposed to be this year but something came up, so we had to postpone it. I already have everything set up and am paying on it a month at a time.