How to pick bridesmaids for a destination wedding?

You ask the people you love and cherish the most.

Personally, I'm not asking anyone.

I am also having a DW and had trouble figuring out how many bridesmaid to have and who to ask. What I did was once I knew who was coming for sure I asked who I wanted. I didn't want anyone to feel pressure to go if they truly couldn't afford it

No bridesmaids or anyone for that matter for me...I think 1 is enough for a DW if you are having it small.

These are all close friends, but how long would you suggest to wait? I wouldn't want them to feel burden on going to the wedding. At the same time, I don't want the other ladies have to delay their planning because I'm waiting on the last 2 Who knew this could be such a delicate situation and we haven't even started planning on the day yet! haha

I'm having a DW, I just had private talks with my potential BMs about if they thought they could make it or not. Most people are pretty up front about whether they can afford that kind of expense - yes I can or no I can't.

You're going to ask all your guests to be bridesmaids? That isn't the purpose of a bridesmaid. You're supposed to ask people you're closest to, not whoever can make it.

Yes, these are friends that would definitely be my BMs if we have a local wedding. (I'm not asking all of my guests ) And that's why I'm torn on not/asking given that they're "maybe's" for the DW.

Be upfront. Tell them that you'd love for them to be a BM, but since it's a DW and therefore extra expensive and time-inclusive, that you'd understand if they were unable to go. Let them decide.

My friend had a DW to Vegas, and her asked one person - her best friend. TWO weeks before the wedding, the friend dropped out due to financial reasons. My friend was so distressed that I volunteered as tribute since I already bought my tickets and made hotel reservations. So... just know that backing out might happen.

I wouldn't go crazy. Ask who you would ask if you were having a local wedding. I am having a DW and I asked my bridal party when I was still planning my local wedding. Before I decided to have a DW I asked if they could go and what they thought. I have 4 in my bridal party, they all are coming.

I'm having a destination wedding and am having no bridal party. I didn't want to pressure anyone into coming and if they did travel for it I didn't want the added expense of a bridesmaid dress, etc.

Anyway, I would ask who you're closest with to be your bridesmaids. Do you want the number of bridesmaids to be even with groomsmen?

How many BM's do you really need. I say cap it at the 5.