How to Not Invite Toxic Friend to Wedding??

You have to examine exactly what she brings to your life that is good. She sounds like she is a very angry, passive-aggressive person. No one needs that kind of toxicity.

Personally, I'd cut her from my life. If you aren't in my life, obviously you don't come to my wedding.

My advice would be to cut her from your life completely if she's that toxic. I had a friend like that and there was no way we were gonna invite her to the wedding. I don't know if she knows she's not invited yet.

I would cut her out completely. She sounds very negative and I wouldn't want someone like that at my wedding. She could potentially say something very hurtful to you and ruin your big day. Tell her you have a guest cap and can only invite a certain amount of people and your guest list is full. It might make her mad.. but then it will be all the easier to just cut her out and never talk to her again.

Just don't invite her. I don't see where the problem is you obviously don't like her so....win win?

You don't send invitations to people you don't want to be there. Simple.

Looks like you have time to start distancing yourself from her so that by invite time you may not have much if any contact.

... don't send her an invite?

Thanks, everyone!!! I just needed some reassurance that I'm not completely crazy and it's OK to just cut her off. My priest told me, "You want people there who will support and love you. Don't invite people who are not totally invested in that." This is really a new beginning and I want to start my life surrounded by people who love me and who I love. My Dad died six years ago and so it's going to be a particularly emotional, but joyous day. I need that love to buoy me.

"She could potentially say something very hurtful to you and ruin your big day." THAT is exactly it and another friend has told me that, too! Thank you!!!!

From what you have said, I would not call her a friend. Don't invite people to your wedding who aren't friends.

Like everyone else said, you should cut that person out of your life. She sounds like the type of person that would bring up divorce rates at your wedding to you just to bring down your mood on what's supposed to be the happiest day of your life.

Cross her name off the guest list, and don't send her an invite. If she asks why she isn't invited, just say something along the lines of "We wished we could invite everyone, but budget/venue/etc limited our guests list to family".

How to not invite her? Don't invite her. It's that simple!

But that's not the issue. This girl is a piece of work. Have you told her how you feel? I think you should cut her out completely. So weird.

Start distancing yourself from her and don't send her an invitation. Why would you want to be around people this nasty anyway??

Don't invite her. What is the problem here?

I cut slack for people I love who have supported me in the past. However, I do draw the line at saying stupid things that insult someone's personal belief system. I don't care if it's "Zombie Jesus Day" or Joseph Smith's birthday -- philosophical and religious beliefs are off limits. You don't have to invite her.

Girl tell Negative Nancy 2 go play in 5:30 traffic! Nobody wants her or any Debbie Downer at their wedding.... I wouldn't want her around me, PERIOD... I wouldn't beat around the bush about it either... chics like her need a real dose of reality & if it pisses her off so be it, she doesn't sound like much 2 lose..

Yeah, just don't invite her.

I have a "friend" that also says things constantly that offends me. So I didn't invite her. Some people just lack social skills.

Not reading comments but i have to say, the best way to not invite a "friend" is to not send an invitation.

How often do you talk/see her?

There are people I was friends with in college but over time their true colors have shown and although I'm cordial with them when I run into them, I do not make any effort to see them (lunches/dinners, birthdays, holidays, parties, etc.) They will not be invited to my wedding and I don't plan on needing to explain it to them or anything.

If you see her on a regular or semi-regular basis, you are going to have a much harder time because she may actually ask you about it. However, I don't think you need to announce to her that she's not invited (whether you see her often or not). Just don't send an invite.

Also, side note, she really doesn't sound like someone you want to be friends with any more. So, stop being her friend! Stop reaching out, stop hanging out. You don't need toxic people hanging on in your life.

Stop being passive aggressive, dont be her "friend" and dont send her an invite. why are these kinds of questions asked? if she sucks, kick her ass to the curb. don't put up with crappy people.

"youre dead to me!"