How to not have a tacky wedding

Honeymoon funds, asking for money in any way (dollar dance unless cultural, jars for voting who will smash the cake, etc), crappy food, self-catered food, only one alcohol option (i.e. only one kind of beer). That's all I got for now.

Tiered wedding is one way.

Honeyfund/asking for cashimoto.

Not enough seats.

Telling people what to wear.

The list can go on and on

Oooh good ones, Nonna T!

Not taking care of guests.

I don't care if my plate and silverware are plastic as long as I get catered hot food, drinks, and a place to sit. I also don't care if your playlist is on an ipod or if your dress is second hand. I could care less about your venue or bridal party, as long as I don't have to wait 3 hours between your ceremony and reception.

Take care of your guests needs (be a good host) and you will avoid being tacky.

As others have said, what is tacky is when a bride or couple say "It's my special day and I am going to do what I want, regardless of anyone else!!!"

Yes, the ceremony is all about you...but the reception is the thank-you event you throw to thank your guests for coming, celebrating you, and bringing you a gift. Guest comfort needs to be considered. It's tacky to beg for money or do a honeyfund, not provide alcohol or proper meals, not provide seating, etc, because that's just bad hosting.

Not speaking to guests at your wedding. Have a receiving line, do table visits, have the DJ announce that you two are welcome guests at your table, but please make an effort to speak to every guest.

Let's see: Cash bar, not enough seats, 70s music, The Macarena, running out of cocktail food, money dance with the bride, having a magician or juggler show up at the wedding doing magic and juggling, drunk guests gyrating and undulating on the dance floor, Maid of Honor or Best Man giving speeches with overt sexual sagas of your past, Groom sticking his hand up the Bride's hoochie to retrieve the garter, smashing cake in each others' faces, costume themes, plastic anything fake flowers, honeyfund, mismatched bridesmaids' dresses, tennis shoes, boring, snorefest videos of the couples' past and cold food. That about covers it I think!

OOOPS! One more. Having the ceremony over and expecting guests to wait for 2-3 hrs. for the reception to begin.

Tackiness means having a wedding where it's not all in proportion.

You have a $5000 dress but a cash bar? Yuck.

Going on a $20k honeymoon but guests are hungry? Yuck,

10+ bridesmaids, cathedral length veil and ball gown, but it's Olive Garden catering? Yuck.

I could go on....

I agree with Richard. Basically just not treating your guests like they matter to you. The only wedding I've ever considered tacky was one in which food was self-catered, and DH and I barely got any because we were at the end of the line. We also had to pay for water bottles as well as our drinks. That sort of thing.

Making guests/bridal party work. Even if it's just a small "hey can you gather up all the flowers after the ceremony", I hate it. Unless it's an unforseeable situation, hire professionals to handle logistics and anything else you'll need for the day.