I’ve been pretty good about the planning process so far, but I feel so stressed in anticipation of the actual day (and we are a year out...)! One of the biggest issues I’m having is with my future monster-in-law. She’s tried to dictate everything from my dress to the guest list (and she isn’t paying for any of it!). She has added a huge number to our guest list (many of whom we have deleted without her knowing), and she expects everyone to be able to bring their children.
I am one of those who does not want my day to be overshadowed by a crying toddler... and would prefer no children. My fiancé is indifferent on the issue- he is Filipino and is used to having anyone and everyone showing up to family events, but understands my perspective. I’m okay with over the age of 12 or so... but any younger than that and I won’t want them there, period.
We’ve discussed hiring a few babysitters for the night to be able to enforce that rule, but I’m not sure how to go about doing so. Should I include the information on our website or speak to everyone individually? I know it may be more difficult doing a 12 year old rule vs no children, so I would be open to that as well.
I want to have the plan set in stone before telling my FMIL that HER guests will not be able to bring their children.
Thanks in advance for all the help, lovelies
