How to make vows more personal?

My officiant asked how we met and some funny stuff about each other, So maybe soething personal about you two.

Ask if she has wedding ceremony packages you could look through? Ours gave us a bunch of samples and we pieced our ceremony together from a bunch of different versions to make it most personal / special to us

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Great idea. Maybe I could ask her to send me a sample of vows!!

Maybe you could throw and inside joke in there.

We wrote our own vows so they were very personalized. We included promises like I promise to always cuddle with you or I will cheer with you when your favorite team wins or stuff like that. Our ceremony also included how we met and how my husband proposed. It kind of sounds like she wants to you to wrote your own vows even though you don't want to which is kind of confusing.

Write what comes from the heart rather than something that is pre-written

Try to think about what you actually want from each other and replace some of the generic/traditional lines with some that matter more to you. If you don't want to add anything personal, just find a template you like online and take out anything that feels irrelevant to your relationship. (Google [desired adjective] wedding vows.)

We wrote our vows together, but we kept a relatively traditional format (five actual promises, no love story included, we repeated them after our officiant) so it wasn't really stressful.

Crap! Mine is in 23 days too and I still need to sit down and write mine. Work has been crazy and we’re still working on the house to get it ready for my girls to stay with me and have my photographer and hair stylist over.


He and I found a guide we liked. Basically 3 sections with a few sentences for each. - what you love about the other person. - your promises to the other person. - looking to the future.

Hey Michelle,

FS and I kinda did the same thing - he is a pastor and while he has done many weddings, he didn't really want us to do our own vows. He wanted to stick with something more traditional and in line with our faith. So we looked at the template for the officiant and after FS talked with him, we were encouraged to include whatever we would like to make it more personalized to us. I took the two templates - the one from the officiant and the one from the church service and basically meshed the two. And it came out great! So we get to have our "traditional" service without restraining the officiant from doing what he's used to.

Also, I actually did write some vows of my own, but I plan to share them with my hubs privately on our wedding night. I'm sure he will appreciate them.

View Quoted Comment Nice. I ended up giving three things I promise from the heart, one funny one lol.