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How to list mom's boyfriend

MrsRies&Love, on January 6, 2018 at 6:31 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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My mom and her boyfriend have been dating for almost two years now, and they live together. Over that time, I've been accepted into his family and him and I have developed a really great relationship. He will be the person that our kids call "Pappy", but I wouldn't say that I'll ever call him "dad". My biological father is a waste of time, and I haven't talked to him in a few years. He's not invited to the wedding. I don't even refer to him as my dad anyone.

Anyway - working on the ceremony program, the sequence of events and announcements for the reception, I'm having a hard time with how to label him. For example, on the programs should I list him under the bride's parents? "Kristi X and Donny X"? Do I need to label is as "Kristi x and boyfriend Donny X" just for clarification?

I know this is likely a personal preference. I would like to list him, I'm just wondering how everyone else feels about it. Any insight is helpful!

Edited to add some info!

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Latest activity by BlueHenBride, on January 6, 2018 at 6:43 PM

Master October 2017
karen · on January 6, 2018 at 6:34 PM
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I would ask mom what she wants. Under the parents sections, you could put
Mrs. Jane Smith, accompanied by Jack Doe
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Just Said Yes September 2018
Wayne · on January 6, 2018 at 6:38 PM
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I like that, "Mrs. Jane Smith, accompanied by Jack Doe"
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MrsRies&Love · on January 6, 2018 at 6:42 PM
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I didn't think of using "accompanied by"! That's a really great idea.
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BlueHenBride · on January 6, 2018 at 6:43 PM
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Hmmm, we only listed DH's stepdad on our programs as "Groom's mother and stepfather......................Jane and John Doe," but we did not list DH's dad's gf on the programs because they are not married. We just had a line for "Groom's father......... Dad's Name." My parents were listed as "Bride's parents............Names." I don't think I've ever seen a parents SO listed on a program or invitation if they are not married.

Obviously, your mom's bf is special to you. If you would like to honor him by listing him as one of your parents, that is very sweet. I would suggest talking with your mom and her bf about including him on the programs and asking their opinion on how you would like to word it. You could also consider "Bride's mother.......Kristi X, accompanied by Donny X," but I am just grasping at straws for alternate ways to word it. I think listing them as the bride's parents is fine as long as they are comfortable with it and your family attending the wedding is comfortable with it.
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