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Dedicated November 2018

How to list cash bar on wedding site?

Jaci, on August 4, 2018 at 11:03 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 17

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The drinks won't be free but the memories will be priceless? Lol
And how do I list to please not bring children unless coming from out of town? I have someone I know that just had a baby and she isnt invited but showed for my shower and I know she will try and show up at the wedding with that newborn. Or should I list no children and just word of mouth to my siblings that they can bring their kids? I mean they're in my wedding so they have to come.. I have a certain ammount I'm planning on paying food for so I really dont want any unplanned guests but I know its inevitable. Me and my grandmother would be upset if any crying ruined the ceremony.
Please no negativity on the cash bar.
I am from a family of alcoholics and have to cover catering and a bartender by myself.

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Latest activity by Brae, on August 5, 2018 at 11:45 AM

Champion October 2018
Kelly · on August 4, 2018 at 11:11 PM
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Just make sure and address the invitations to who is actually invited. Usually exceptions are made for newborns though if they’re still breastfeeding so that could be an issue.
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Realynn · on August 4, 2018 at 11:11 PM
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"Cash bar will be available" -- keep it straight to the point
As for the kids, specify the names of each guest on the RSVP and hope for the best
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Jaci · on August 4, 2018 at 11:13 PM
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I'd prefer she does not come at all. She wasnt invited to my shower and came. It's my uncle's wife daughter and she does meth and was outside fully pregnant and smoking cigarettes. I'd rather anyone with a newborn just not come if they have to bring the baby. 👀
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Kelly · on August 4, 2018 at 11:17 PM
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Well that’s up to you. If you haven’t sent out invitations yet you don’t need to invite her. If you’ve sent her a save the date or invitation though you’re unfortunately stuck and have to hope she declines.
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Jaci · on August 4, 2018 at 11:19 PM
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No I didnt invite her to the shower or wedding I never wanted her there but her mom and my uncle bring her anyway. I hardly know her. I guess i should just tell them.
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Jaci · on August 4, 2018 at 11:19 PM
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Thank you!
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Shelby · on August 5, 2018 at 12:07 AM
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I would just be up front with them, as politely as possible, that their invite is only for them and not for any extra guests for family members. It seems like you’ll need to be as specific as possible with them probably if they are just bringing her to everything. Are you okay with them not coming if she doesn’t come?
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lm · on August 5, 2018 at 12:11 AM
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Your invitation should say "we respectfully request an adult only reception" and/or " please rsvp to the names addressed on invitation"
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Devoted September 2018
Shelby · on August 5, 2018 at 12:19 AM
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I would just list “A cash bar will be available” on your website and your details card and leave it at that. Straight to the point and no surprises for the guests
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Devoted September 2018
kNrYwC · on August 5, 2018 at 9:38 AM
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Sometimes you just need to be really direct - on your website specifically state:
Cash bar will be available
Adult only reception
**you do not need to explain yourself as to why some children will be there.
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Sarah · on August 5, 2018 at 9:43 AM
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Adult only reception isn’t accurate though. I don’t disagree that parents don’t need an explanation as to why other kids are there, but you can’t say it’s adult only if some kids are invited.
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Devoted September 2018
kNrYwC · on August 5, 2018 at 9:47 AM
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Oh good point, very true. So, then how to say it?
"Children by invite only?" ... but isn't that all wedding guests?
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Expert September 2018
Brittany · on August 5, 2018 at 9:58 AM
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I put “appetizers will be served and cash bar will open at 5:00” straight to the point!
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Toniette · on August 5, 2018 at 10:12 AM
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Do an invitation only event. For the reception let them know alcohol will be provided but must be brought cash only. Use disclaimers about loud music for kids, babies, and newborns. For my wedding if you dont have an invitation or your name isn't on the list you want get in. Depending on the people that have kids, by not allowing kids you may lose people or make them feel a certain type of way. If it is an adult only event besides the kids in it let that be known on the invites so you dont offend anyone.
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Judith · on August 5, 2018 at 10:28 AM
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You need to talk to the aunt and uncle, and explain that you are inviting only the two of them. Before invitations go out. If you do not know aunt and uncle well enough to talk with them on the telephone or in person, you don't know them well enough to invite them either. So bite the bullet and do it. All you need say is you are limited in number of seat and in budget, and are not inviting the young or grown up children of people where you know the parents well but never have been close to the younger family, like your cousin. So you do hope that aunt and uncle with come to the wedding.
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Jaci · on August 5, 2018 at 10:41 AM
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I think maybe the emphasis is necessary.. I like this. Thanks!
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Brae · on August 5, 2018 at 11:45 AM
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I understood your post as the children who are invited are part of the wedding party, is that correct? Cause then you can say something like "adult only, not including wedding party"
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