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Judi
VIP June 2017

How to let the Bridesmaids know that they are responsible for hair and makeup?

Judi, on April 17, 2017 at 4:21 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 30

I'm not able to afford hair and makeup for the whole party , and I have no particular style that I would need them to have. Aside from a very inexpensive dress, I've given them free reign over shoes, accessories, and now hair and makeup. Does a text like this portray this message without me sounding...

I'm not able to afford hair and makeup for the whole party , and I have no particular style that I would need them to have. Aside from a very inexpensive dress, I've given them free reign over shoes, accessories, and now hair and makeup. Does a text like this portray this message without me sounding cheap? Because three of my four bridesmaids are way more high-maintenance than I am, and I know that's the way it will be perceived


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  • ShanynL
    VIP September 2017
    ShanynL ·
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    I think that sound great!

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  • MoweryMe
    VIP April 2017
    MoweryMe ·
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    You need to be more straight forward. I didn't get the "I'm paying for it" message at all.

    My BM's are in charge of their own hair and makeup. I just came out and said I wasn't able to pay for it. Everyone understood.

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  • Denise
    Devoted October 2017
    Denise ·
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    Everything that I've read about this topic is opposite of what was expected from me as a bridesmaid. May will be the 3rd wedding I'll be in and I've had to pay for my own hair and make-up. I picked a salon for my own hair and make-up...gave my bridesmaids the option to either go with or somewhere else if it wasn't within their budget.

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
    Rachel DellaPorte ·
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    I'd send something far simpler (and I'd skip the men's grooming price, unless your bridal party includes a man -- and the children's pricing? Children don't need make-up, and their moms know how to fix their hair, so I'd leave that out, as well).

    "Hey ladies...just something for you to consider. I have hired a MUA and hair stylist for myself for the day of the wedding. Since she'll be onsite, it might be convenient for you to take advantage of her services, IF you want professional services. If you're interested, I'll forward you a price list. I need to know if you're interested by ___________. Of course, there is no pressure, and I'm not asking any of you to hire a professional for your hair styling or make-up application, and if you are considering a professional, I'd certainly never tell you that you had to hire my artists. You can use whomever you like, or you can do your own hair and MU. I just wanted to pass along this tip to those who are interested. If this day-of service appeals to you, just let me know and I'll send the price list. Thanks!"

    ETA" MoweryMe...you didn't get the "'I'm paying for it' message at all" because the bride isn't paying for it. If her attendants want professional hair/make-up, they're going to have to pay for it themselves. Whether they opt out entirely, pay the OP's vendor, or use pros of their own choosing is up to them.

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  • FutureMrsBrock
    Dedicated September 2017
    FutureMrsBrock ·
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    Should it say "if you choose to use her" instead of chose?

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  • Natalie
    VIP October 2017
    Natalie ·
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    I think its fine. It clears it up that they do not have to use the same artist and there's no specific look. They should definitely understand by that that you aren't paying.

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  • M
    Savvy March 2018
    Monica ·
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    Honestly I don't think this should even have to be addressed, when you are asked to be a bridesmaid you should ALWAYS be ready to fork over cash for your own expenses.

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  • Private_User832
    Master August 2017
    Private_User832 ·
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    Sounds fine to me

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  • Taylor
    Dedicated June 2017
    Taylor ·
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    I did the same as reirei. I let them know ahead of time the costs. Then when it got closer to my meeting with the Hair and Makeup Artist I sent out a google survey forum that had yes/no for each (including the cost again) and if they had any ideas on what they wanted at this time. Turned that handy dandy little survey into an excel sheet and handed it to the artist to keep for their planning purposes.

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  • Mrs.Soon2Be
    Super August 2017
    Mrs.Soon2Be ·
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    Agree with @cabobride2018. I would include the prices. That's what I did in my group message to my girls. They were cool about it. I don't have money like that to pay for everyone either.

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