How to kindly tell fmil we aren’t adding any more guests

Just say
Sorry we hit our guest limit and cannot make any changes because we already ordered invitations. If she gets upset have you husband handle her

I'm going through a similar situation and it's super frustrating. My FFIL wants to add people after I've already sent STDs out and now am about to send invites. My position is that if they didnt immediately feel like they wanted these people on the guest list months ago when you made it, they don't seem important enough to add now. Of course theres plenty of people I'd like to have at my wedding but they arent close enough to me to actually invite. We cant celebrate with everyond!

I did the same for my mother in law. I limited them but later on after we got the responses in and we saw we had plenty of room due to declines we let her invite more. People think it's rude to have a B list but in her case we literally didn't give her any room and she had wanted those people to come so it was ok for her to invite a B list

I would simply tell her that you are over your limit and things have been ordered. A line has to be drawn in the sand. Don’t let her keep pushing you or you’re in for a long planning process. Stand firm.

Just tell her, "I'm so sorry, but we've already ordered our save the dates and are over our guest limit. We can't add anyone else at this point."

I'm having this issue now lol!

FMIL wanted to add about 20 more guests because she felt guilty that some of them were angry they weren't invited.

I had my FH tell her no and that we don't have enough room. She's still angry about it but at this point it was getting out of control.

Sensitive people care about the feelings of others. It sounds like your mother in law uses her possible hurt feelings as a way to control people.

You don't have to send save the dates to all your guests, so you can always add people and not send them one (and just send them an invite).

View Quoted Comment I agree! I asked them in February to let me know if there was anyone to invite. And the thing is the people she wants added now are t family or close friends, they’re parents of FHs high school friends (most of which aren’t invited because they aren’t friends anymore)

View Quoted Comment Oh no! Honestly I don’t even know any of these people and it’s very likely they don’t know that FH and I are getting married 😂 I told her that we are over the maximum number of guests we wanted to invite and that FH and I were uncomfortable inviting people we don’t know or barely know