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Expert December 2017

How to Invite SOs

Willbewilkins, on May 28, 2017 at 3:44 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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How do I invite SOs? As in, do they get a separate invite or do they get invited together? Married couples obviously get one invitation, and I assume engaged couples do, but what about dating couples? It would seem weird to me to invite a couple who recently started dating or who are showing all the signs of an imminent break up as one social unit, but it also seems incredibly rude to simply not invite the SO just because I don't know him/her as well. I can't just invite one of them "plus one", so how do I invite the SO without making it awkward if they break up? This probably wouldn't even occur to me, but this happened to a friend of mine recently. They invited a friend and his gf and it was awkward because they broke up after the invitation was already sent with both their names.

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Latest activity by ambrok, on May 29, 2017 at 12:08 PM

Master April 2017
A&L · on May 28, 2017 at 4:06 PM
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Address one invite with both names and mail it to the one you are closest to, if they break up that on them not you.
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Dedicated August 2017
Teresa · on May 28, 2017 at 4:22 PM
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If both you and your fiance(e) only really know the one person, I agree with A&L. If you're close friends with one person in that couple and your fiance(e) is close friends with the other person, still put them on one invitation, but if they break up, make sure you let them both know separately that they're both still invited, and whether or not they can bring a Plus One.
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Master May 2017
VC · on May 28, 2017 at 4:30 PM
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Social units get one invite.
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Expert December 2017
Willbewilkins · on May 29, 2017 at 12:29 AM
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Ok, thanks!
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Master June 2017
Jacky · on May 29, 2017 at 10:51 AM
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Yes, only mail the invite to the person you initially inviting and include their SO next to their name. You are inviting them as a unit rather then individually.
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Expert September 2017
Amanda · on May 29, 2017 at 11:10 AM
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I addressed mine with Ms. and guest based on some of the guest list can have a plus one and they would fill that in with the rvsp
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Master October 2017
ambrok · on May 29, 2017 at 12:08 PM
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I would sent 1 invite to the guest we are closest with. For very new SO, I would just list '...and guest'; but for anyone married or in a relationship, I would list both names. I would not worry about a potential breakup before the wedding. Their names are typically only listed on the envelope that gets thrown away anyway.
If a couple was separated, I would just invite the guest you know-n-love & not list their spouse (unless you are friends with both...then separate invites).
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