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Kelly
Savvy September 2015

How to indicate my Maid of Honor has passed away on cceremony programs...

Kelly, on July 1, 2015 at 12:26 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12

I have the template I want all laid out. It's the type with the silhouettes of the wedding party at the top with the names & roles of each, followed by the program information.

My MOH has passed away, so I'd like to nip the guest questions in the bud by making it known that's why there are 3 bridesmaids standing up front when the program clearly indicates 4.

Please, none of the "Who cares what people think" responses... I'm not looking for advice on how to get over other people's opinions... Just what to put on the program.

Thank you very much,

Kelly

12 Comments

Latest activity by Laura Marie, on July 1, 2015 at 2:59 PM
  • Tara
    Devoted November 2015
    Tara ·
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    If you already have the program laid out I would just add "In memory of" in front/above her name.

    I'm sorry for you loss. I hope this is helpful. If I can think of anything else I will come back and add to it

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  • bina1015
    VIP October 2015
    bina1015 ·
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    First, I'm very sorry for your loss. Maybe behind her name you can put (in spirit)?

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  • Princess Consuela
    Master November 2015
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. I second Tara's idea.

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  • R
    VIP September 2015
    Rosie9615 ·
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    I really like @Tara's suggestion. Also, not sure exactly what your programs look like, but can you make her silhouette gray instead of black? That might make it more obvious, but I could also see it maybe standing out too much. Sorry for your loss Smiley sad I like that you are still honoring her in your program.

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  • Laura Marie
    VIP September 2015
    Laura Marie ·
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    I'm so sorry. This is a tough one. Are you doing anything else for her? If so, you could put "ceremony flowers in rememberance of (name), maid of honor." Where the MOH would typically go in the program?

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  • Kelly
    Savvy September 2015
    Kelly ·
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    Excellent idea, thank you!

    And thank you all for your kind words. I really appreciate it.

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  • Kelly
    Savvy September 2015
    Kelly ·
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    Laura,

    As far as anything else for Lisa, I was given an idea on here about putting a little half column thing up where she would have stood, then having a bridesmaid put a bouquet on it as they walked down & took their place. I loved that idea at first, but then it seemed like more of a memorial than I wanted. If I'm going to end up crying on my wedding day, I don't want it to be over someone who passed away, you know? Just too sad of an idea.

    So this ceremony program is my new idea for integrating her without putting some type of physical representation at the front of the church.

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  • Yasmina
    Master November 2015
    Yasmina ·
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    Tara's idea is beautiful.

    I'm SO sorry for your loss. That has to be so hard to deal with. Smiley sad

    Maybe rather than the column at the church, maybe have a framed photo of her at the reception? Its a sweet way to acknowledge her without making it a memorial...

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  • Ally
    Master October 2016
    Ally ·
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    I'm so so sorry for your loss Smiley sad

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  • FutureMrsD
    Super October 2015
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    So sorry for you loss! I like the "in spirit" wording. And agree about the bouquet, that would make be bawl my eyes out.

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
    annakay511 ·
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    This may be super weird but the first thing I thought was to add a halo to her silhouette in the program.

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  • Laura Marie
    VIP September 2015
    Laura Marie ·
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    Yea I wouldn't want that type of a memorial at the ceremony either, I'd see it and have a hard time too. I sort of meant more like saying the general flowers for the ceremony were in Lisa's honor, if you have any at your alter. My friend did this and it was just like a nod in her program, not actual flowers set aside. You could leave a reserved seat somewhere with a flower or two on it if you wanted..that's what we're doing. Either way, it's so sweet that you are choosing to remember her and honor her role somehow. I know it's hard.

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