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Tori
Just Said Yes March 2022

How to incorporate my brother in my wedding!!

Tori, on February 7, 2022 at 9:25 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 5

So my fiancé officiated his brothers wedding a few years back and now his brother is officiating our wedding, which I’m completely okay with! Our wedding is less than 45 people, and we have no bridal party and no one standing up with us. What I’m struggling with is how to incorporate my brother. My older brother and I have always been super super close and I want to incorporate him some way, especially since my fiancés brother is officiating. I always said in the past my brother would stand up with me but since we aren’t having anyone stand with us, would it look weird to still have him stand there? We don’t plan on having individual dances. It’s already a given that my brother is going to do some kind of speech or toast. But what’s something special I can do with him or have him do? I found a poem I was going to have my fiancés brother read but what about my brother reading it once I get to the end of the alter and then my fiancés brother takes over? I feel like that’s not enough though. I need ideas! Please help!!!


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Latest activity by Jmz, on February 8, 2022 at 10:22 AM
  • Jasmine S.
    VIP May 2022
    Jasmine S. ·
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    I think having each brother read half a poem, or trading lines, is fine.
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    Devoted February 2023
    Elycia ·
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    I like the idea of them co-officiating. Your BIL can do all the legal stuff, but your brother can also add to the ceremony. This is done commonly in inter-faith weddings and you can probably find some outlines online for this too. Your brother gets the same attention and importance as your BIL.

    Edit: example-- I think it would be really cute if your brother introduced your fiances vows as though your FH is not only promising these things to you, he's also promising your family. Your BIL can announce your vows. Your brother can ask your FH if he takes you to be his wife, and vice versa.

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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
    Cece ·
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    Could you have brother walk you down the aisle? Even if you are already having your father or someone else walk you, he can walk on the other side of you
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  • Amanda
    Devoted May 2022
    Amanda ·
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    I think having them each do a reading or share one reading is a good option. We’re doing something similar with our two moms. You could also let him give a toast at the reception.
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  • Jmz
    Expert July 2022
    Jmz ·
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    I think a reading is a really nice idea! Or he can be the games keeper and announce some kind of couple game during the reception? I know some people do the shoe game, which is just involving you two. Or, for example, this will be announced by our DJ but we're going to give everyone a "how well do you know the couple" quiz to fill out at their seat, and then sometime during dinner we'll do a "keep your hands up if you guessed right..." and whoever wins gets a bottle of prosecco! It'll be fun since people are from different stages in our story and most won't know every answer! Maybe your brother could be in charge of that?

    One of my brothers is going to play the song for our walks down the aisle, which I'm really excited about since he's been musical his whole life and it's a really big part of our childhood. It's going to be a song that's really recognizable "Stay With Me" by Sam Smith, which I know isn't technically romantic if you listen closely Smiley xd but my fiancé was OBSESSED with Sam Smith when we first got together when we lived in London so I think he'll get really excited to hear it as a surprise. And the tune is quite sentimental!

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