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How to include stepfather in wedding

Delaney, on September 23, 2020 at 11:35 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7
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So I know I have lots of time, but it is a constant argument between me and mom about how to include my stepfather in the wedding. I have known him since I was 10 and he has helped raise me, but I don鈥檛 want to take anything away from my biological dad as we are also very close. I was thinking about having both of them walk me down the aisle but think that might look weird and its also the big moment for my real dad. I also thought about doing a second stepfather/daughter dance but that is a lot for the guests to watch. Any suggestions?

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Latest activity by Yvonne, on September 28, 2020 at 2:51 PM
  • Izzy
    Savvy October 2020
    Izzy
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    I鈥檝e seen where the stepfather will walk the bride halfway down the aisle and then he鈥檒l hand her to the biological father so he can continue to walk her down the aisle all the way to the groom. That might be an ideas to incorporate both for walking down the aisle 馃榿
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  • Jasmine
    Rockstar August 2021
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    I was originally thinking the same thing as Izzy saw. Turns out for me, I will have my brothers dad walk me down and then instead of a dance with my bio dad, recite a collaboration poem. We both write so I thought it would be a nice personal touch. You can either split up the walk, split up the dance or let them each have their own moment. One walks and the other dances.
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  • Private User
    Dedicated September 2020
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    My friend had her stepfather walk her halfway down the aisle where her dad then walked her down the rest of the way. She also had two father/daughter dances.
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  • K
    Expert October 2020
    Katie
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    My sister had our dad meet our step-dad halfway and then they both walked her down the aisle but she was outside and had a long walk from the house to the alter.


    When I have my reception next year I am having two separate dances so that I can dance with both of them. My step-dad has been in my life since I was 5 and I am actually more close with him than my dad. Neither of them will be walking me down the aisle as my 13 year old son is.
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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2020
    Katie
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    So thoughtful to want to acknowledge your special relationship with your stepdad and also want to give your biological and loving father the special moments all dads look forward to. You are blessed to have many parents be a part of your day!! Off the top of my head, perhaps stepdad can help light the unity candle, also have a boutonni猫re made for him, or have stepdad say the blessing for reception dinner. 鉂わ笍
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  • J
    Just Said Yes November 2021
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    Hi! I鈥檓 in a similar boat but my step dad has been around since I was 2! My outlook is I have 2 arms that will hold on perfectly to 2 dads down the aisle. I am thinking for the father daughter dance I will play 鈥 I loved her first鈥 and start with my bio dad, who will pass me to my step dad, who will pass me to my future hubby. Or I might do no dance at all, haven鈥檛 decided yet. I鈥檓 sure it鈥檚 no secret your step dad was a big part of your life so why would your bio dad be surprised if you include him? Best of luck, I hope whatever you choose to do makes your heart happy!
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  • Y
    Dedicated January 2021
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    I like the idea of the two dances! It's a memory for you and your father and your stepfather to look back on forever; the guests can handle another 4-5 min dance.

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