How to include siblings?

What about him being an usher and a do a reading? is that something that he would want to do?

eta: honestly my FH wasnt upset with no being included in his sisters wedding, but you know your brother and if that would bug him.

I REALLY have no clue if it would bother him or not. He's a laid back guy.

I really love the idea of him doing a reading. There are several scriptures that I would like read during the ceremony and I think that's a great idea.

I am in the same boat! I am having my sister and FH sister as bm and FH is having his brother as a gm. Unfortunately I have two brothers that FH is not close with so I am including them in the wedding as ushers. When I told them they were honestly a little upset. They are grown adults so the understand, but definitely disappointed. They are practically gm though, they will have a tux, attend RD, ride in the limo, attend the bachelor party etc. I am following to see if anyone has any ideas to make them feel more included!

This isn't for the ceremony, but could you have him give a toast? A "welcome to the family" speech might work nicely. You could also consider asking him to walk you down the aisle. I had planned to walk alone, but decided it was the perfect way to include my brother.

I think usher and a reading sounds good though. He will still be a big part of the ceremony. You could also ask him to be a witness. It is typically the best man and maid of honor, but doesn't need to be.

Why doesn't he walk your grandmother's down the aisle?

I have a younger brother, FH has not included him a groomsman, so I understand you wanting to include him. Have you spoken to him about it? I'm sure if you tell him you want him to be a part of it, and give him the idea of being an usher or reading maybe he can choose?

Him walking me down the aisle isn't an option, especially since I've told my dad and stepdad that they wouldn't be either. I have two children from my first marriage and they're walking in front of me down the aisle.

Thanks ladies! I am feeling confident with the decision to ask him to escort my grandmothers and to do a reading.

My brother won't be a groomsman or an usher. He will walk my mom down the aisle and be in family pictures but that's about it. It's whatever works for your family!

We are in a similar situation so we are having my brother do one reading FSIL will do the other.

We had the same problem. My FH has a lot of groomsmen already but I wanted to include my baby brother so him and his wife are our greeters. Since he has the nicest disposition and is the friendliest guy I know, it worked out perfectly because he will set the tone for the people arriving. He was honored to be asked to be anything.

I'll probably ask my brother to escort one or both of my grandmothers down the aisle, and since he's a bit tech savvy, to help run the sound for the ceremony and reception. He's not shy, so if we needed him to do any announcements, I'm sure he would (we're planning on a friend officiating, and he may be willing to do the announcements as well).