How to include my other best friend

He could be an usher or do a reading.

I guess I don't understand why he's your best friend and didn't make the cut for your bridal party. Like PP said, you can have him do a reading.

Gonna hop on the bandwagon and say have him do a reading.

View Quoted Comment Because I picked the bridesmaids for my side and FH picked the groomsmen for his side. It's just how we picked our wedding party.

What kind of reading? I've never really been to a wedding where someone did a reading (that I noticed) and I don't know what they would read lol I'll have to see how he feels about public speaking bc he's shy and has anxiety but it's a great idea. Thanks ladies

He can be an usher, do a reading, have a special seat for him, have him officiate, he could really do anything you want him to.

A reading would be good.
I've been at weddings where somebody read a poem the couple liked, scripture verses, just something special and meaningful towards the couple.

I have a similar close guy friend, and he was definitely on my list of people to include, but we ended up putting him with the other guys on FH's side. If putting him in the wedding party is out of the question and you don't think he'd like speaking or reading, I'd make him a usher. He could hand out programs, take people to their seats, and generally just be around with the groomsmen before the ceremony.

Would he be willing to perform your ceremony? You guys could write it, but it would seem that he is one of the people in your lives that knows you best and it might be really meaningful. You'd obviously have to check any legal requirements, but I think that would be great.

Also, you could have him be kind of your co-MOH/BM and just process alone instead of paired up. It just seems mean to have a mutual best friend that lives with you that's not part of your wedding party, regardless of even sides.

He can be a reader or an usher ?

View Quoted Comment I dont see it as mean. I wasn't trying to exclude him. We've been friends for awhile but have recently gotten closer. He's a friend of my fiances but they're not best friends
And uneven numbers wont work for me, as I stated previously. I dont like the way it looks and FH feels the same. It messes with my OCD too much
Thanks for the suggestion about him performing the ceremony. We'll definitely have to look into that

View Quoted Comment Great ideas, thank you

Could he be the one to give you the rings, instead of MOH/BM or ringbearer?

View Quoted Comment We're having our 2 youngest sons doing that. I think I'm going to ask him to give me away