How to include my 14yr daughter

MOH or bridesmaid would be nice. Even though she’s a teen, being MOH would let her know how important she is

I went to a wedding with a young teen daughter where they included signing adoption papers in the ceremony, so it was a marriage of a family, not just a couple. It was beautiful and the whole family was in tears. If not that, she could be a junior bridesmaid?

Make her your maid of honor. There is no greater honor.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your suggestion I think thats one way we are gonna include her

View Quoted Comment Wow thats a beautiful idea too thank you

View Quoted Comment Thank you i think so to

You can also do a family unity ceremony. Love lock trees for families are beautiful. I know they have them on Etsy.

It comes with a ceremony reading that’s really nice. There’s other styles too

View Quoted Comment Thank you i will look into that i love Etsy too

View Quoted Comment That is beautiful i will show my FH and daughter. Thank you

You’re welcome! I love it too. It’s seems to be a unique unity ceremony idea. Good luck!

I would make sure that she really wants to participate other than being in the wedding party. Too many couples exert pressure on children to be part of the vows. Children also often feel like they are being pressured to abandon their relationship with the other parent by choosing the new one. If she is all for it, and has a great relationship with your FH, by all means do more.

I agree i think thats were my struggle is ahes a teenage girl and i dont want to force or pressure her into anything even if we think its a good idea

Obviously this wouldn't work for every family, but I went to a wedding where the teenage daughter was a bridesmaid and her new stepdad gave her a promise ring and vowed to love and care for her as family from that day forward. Those two were super close and it worked perfectly for them.

Everyone has already said a family unity ceremony and having her be your MOH which I think are great ideas! I'd also like to throw in here... I've seen a couple weddings where the kids have been the ones to walk their mom down the aisle, and I think thats cute too! Ask her how else she would like to participate!

I think including her as a brides maid is a great idea, but be cautious about the MOH because typically that role requires a lot of responsibility. You could always talk to her and see how she feels!

My daughter (14) was my maid of honor and my son (12) walked me down the aisle. His daughter (14) was a bridesmaid. They all were so excited to be involved.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for sharing i know she wants to be apart of it and its inportant to her too

View Quoted Comment Hum ita alot to think aboit although im in my 40's and really want to keep everything simple if possible lol

View Quoted Comment I personally would like that but im stuck with a very traditional father who its his job to give me away. I suggested that she walk me down the isle and meet him at the end since he has health issuse and he scoffed at it. Im still working on him lol