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alexandra
Savvy December 2021

How to include Goddaughter

alexandra, on December 3, 2020 at 9:24 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 24

I am in a real pickle with my future MIL... Me and my fiance have 2 children (1 and 2 years old) that are going to be our ring bearer and flower girl. Now my MIL is pitching a fit because she thinks his goddaughter (same age as our daughter) should be a flower girl. I want our kids to have a special...

I am in a real pickle with my future MIL... Me and my fiance have 2 children (1 and 2 years old) that are going to be our ring bearer and flower girl. Now my MIL is pitching a fit because she thinks his goddaughter (same age as our daughter) should be a flower girl. I want our kids to have a special role in our wedding that is uniquely theirs. I proposed letting his goddaughter be a junior bridesmaid and let her walk with her dad who is already a groomsman but I got shot down. It's 2 flower girls or nothing. What do I do?!

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  • Teresa
    Dedicated July 2021
    Teresa ·
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    My step son is 13 and the ring bearer. I knew I wanted my 5 year old god daughter as my flower girl but I also know she won't walk down the isle so I included my 7 year old niece, her sister. I have 2 flower girls. There's nothing wrong with 2. However, I did differentiate between the 2. My 7 year old niece will go first with a sign that says, I'm just hear for the cake and then my god daughter will proceed with the sign that says, if you think I'm cute, you should see the bride.
    I agree with everyone. Talk to your FH and see if you're both on the same page. If yes, he needs to stand with you when you tell you MIL no on the God Daughter.

    If you do add her, I would incorporate items that are just for your daughter. Like the flower petals and a different dress & the God daughter can have a sign that says, please stand. Good luck and keep us posted.
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  • Mrs. Coakley
    Master June 2017
    Mrs. Coakley ·
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    "MIL, only OUR children will be in the wedding. Every other child is a guest."

    You've gotta start setting clear boundaries now, or she will be more of a nightmare when you're actually married.

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  • M
    Dedicated October 2021
    Marie ·
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    I'd tell her "then I guess it's nothing." Beyond rude...its not her wedding.
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  • R
    Just Said Yes September 2023
    Rosie ·
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    You let her
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