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Just Said Yes June 2019

How to include extra girls who aren’t technically “bridesmaids”

Hunter, on January 27, 2019 at 7:32 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7

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Hey all!
I am looking for a way to include an extra 4 of my amazing friends in my wedding. My fiancé has three close lads that he wants as groomsmen and doesn’t have any desire to throw more I to the mix, I too chose my closest longest friends (and sister) to be my maids. However, I have an extra four close friends that I want very badly to include, but they come as a set. Aside from including them in the bridal party, batchelorette party, etc. I would love some advice as to how to include these girls the most I can! Should I have them coordinate with my colors? Give them some basic bouquets? I’m open to any ideas you may have!

thanks!

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Latest activity by Deirdre, on January 28, 2019 at 9:47 AM

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JustKidding · on January 27, 2019 at 7:54 PM
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Either have them in the wedding and have the uneven sides or don't do anything. They arent in the wedding and making them jump through hoops when they are just guests is kind of mean.
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Summerbride77 · on January 27, 2019 at 8:13 PM
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I would say have them in the wedding party. It's totally okay to have uneven sides. Otherwise, I would just have them be guests. You can invite them to the pre-wedding event without having them formally part of the wedding party. If you did want to include them you can look at having them do readings.
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Dedicated August 2019
Lauren · on January 27, 2019 at 9:35 PM
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You could give them corsages or invite them to get ready with you and your girls? You could also make sure that you set aside time to take group photos with the photographer! I have a group of girls from high school that I feel the same about, so I'm doing all of those things for them.

How you handle it depends on whether you think they'd be offended by the "secondary" role, but if it were me or my friends I think they'd be happy with whatever 🙂
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Rayna · on January 27, 2019 at 9:37 PM
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As a guest I’d find it odd that non bridesmaids were carrying bouquets or matching. You could ask them to do readings or maybe give a speech at the reception. But I’d honestly just make them bridesmaids. I chose my closest friends/family and didn’t worry about numbers.
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Shakirah · on January 27, 2019 at 10:40 PM
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A few ideas:
1. Ask two of them to do a reading during the ceremony.
2. Ask the other two to be hostesses during the ceremony and reception.
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Alexandra · on January 28, 2019 at 8:58 AM
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How about if you give them some special responsibility during the wedding like passing out programs, they can be ushers, they can bring up something to be used in the ceremony (religious or not). They can also do readings or poems during the ceremony...
I would avoid giving them bouquets so it doesn't seem like they are bridesmaids... and they can wear the same color as the bridesmaids without wearing the same dress...
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Deirdre · on January 28, 2019 at 9:47 AM
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I agree with having them get ready with you. I wouldn't ask them to match colors. If I'm a guest at a wedding, I don't expect the bride to tell me how to dress. I think bouquets would be weird if their not bridesmaids, but someone said corsages. That is less noticeable. I didn't have my sisters in my BP, but I got them corsages and invited them to get ready with me.
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