How to include deceased best friend during ceremony/reception

View Quoted Comment Thank you. She was the life of the party and she definitely wouldn't want me sad on the happiest day of my life. I just feel like I HAVE to do something, but not too muchbthatbwill change the entire mood of the day, you know? The charm idea is awesome.

I also would advise against anything as jarring as the empty chair or playing that song. Your emotions are going to be running on overdrive already. Too much of an in your face reminder most likely will overwhelm you.. A charm on the bouquet is perfect (I did that for my grandfather and a paw print for my pup I lost the month before). What other things remind you of her? For me, butterflies always represented my grandfather so we incorporated them into our decor. Can you incorporate her favorite flower? Flowers in her favorite color? Play her favorite upbeat song during the reception? Incorporate her favorite food into the reception?

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If you want to play a song for her, play an upbeat dance song but please don't announce it. Just bust a move on the floor for her. Isn't that what she would want? Did she have a favorite flower that you could have in your bouquet?

View Quoted Comment No, not that one. It's the Anita Baker 'Angel'. It's actually not even a sad song, it's just her song.

View Quoted Comment I love the charm idea. It is a personal way to remember someone without creating a solemn moment at a wedding.

View Quoted Comment I think that's the route I will take.

I am doing these bouquet charms for my dad's parents and my FH dad.

View Quoted Comment Nice. Are those from Amazon?

Include a necklace, charm, or personal gift she gave by the frame. Reduces risk of upsetting yourself or her family, while paying tribute. Plus you don’t have to muster up strength to keep from crying

View Quoted Comment Yes , and they were 6.99 for 6. They also have different shapes and sizes.

View Quoted Comment I've been looking at those online. Thank you for your suggestion!

View Quoted Comment Perfect. Thank you!

You could have a picture framed of her and have your photographer take a picture of you holding it in your dress, that way you’ll always have that moment. Have it subtly in the background of pictures while you’re getting ready so it’s like she’s there with you.

For my lost loved ones, I'm writing their names on the inside of a ribbon and wrapping it around my bouquet to carry them with me.

I know a lot of people do a memorial table to honor their loved ones who have passed. It's subtle while not taking over the wedding.