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Hannah
Savvy September 2018

How to honor a family member who could not come?

Hannah, on September 18, 2018 at 7:48 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10
Ok so a little backstory, my fiance's mother is in the hospital and there's a good chance she won't be able to come to the wedding. We are having a memorial table with photos of our deceased relatives, but is there another way we could honor his mom?

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Latest activity by Erin, on September 19, 2018 at 7:31 PM
  • 5/18/19Mrs.h
    Dedicated May 2019
    5/18/19Mrs.h ·
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    My grandmother has Alzheimer’s and will not be able to attend my wedding so I bought a tiny picture charm and will put her picture in it and hang it from my bouquet.
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  • K
    Super February 2021
    Kayla ·
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    I will be doing something like this

    How to honor a family member who could not come? 1

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  • Amarriedmann
    Expert June 2019
    Amarriedmann ·
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    Maybe you could do the empty chair thing? If you are doing corsages for the moms, put hers in the chair. Since she would have occupied it if she were well enough. I do hope she gets well enough to attend.
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  • L
    Super July 2018
    LibbyLane ·
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    We had a sweets table that had the favorite candies and cookies of those who were no longer with us. It was a way to remember them that was happy and not depressing. Empty chairs and photographs make me cry on sight, so I knew we wouldn't be able to do that.

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  • B
    Super March 2019
    Bailey ·
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    I don’t have a good answer, but since his mom is still alive, just in the hospital, do not do the same thing for her as you are doing for deceased relatives. You don’t want anyone getting the wrong impression from that!
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  • JENNIFER
    Devoted November 2018
    JENNIFER ·
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    My FH mother will not be able to travel due to her health. We have not yet figured out a way to honor her. We are hoping to use skype or something similar for her to watch the ceremony.
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  • Daria
    VIP January 2019
    Daria ·
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    I would mention her in a speech or toast. That as much as she would have loved to make it, blah blah blah. Can you set up a video feed or something for her?

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  • C
    Super October 2018
    Cassandra ·
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    Can you do a live stream of the wedding and place the tablet or whatever you would use, in the chair that she would have sat in?

    You can say something at the beginning of the ceremony. But I don’t think you need to do much to honor her, since she is still alive.

    The best I can suggest is asking her what she wants.
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    Can you have someone either do a livestream or Facetime her into the ceremony? My FH's grandmother may not be able to make it to ours (she lives across the country so we aren't sure if she'll be up to the 6 hour flight) but we are going to have one of FH's cousins hold up the phone with his grandma on Facetime so she can watch the ceremony live.

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  • Erin
    Expert October 2018
    Erin ·
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    I would leave her chair empty, maybe with a sign honoring her, and include that in your toast if you're doing a bride and groom toast to thank people for coming and to ask them to toast to her health and well being.

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