How to have a wedding with no family or friends

Just make it a special thing between the two of you... that’s how it should be anyways... sometimes we just get caught up in the traditions and trying to please everyone so much so that we forget who this wedding is really for....

You can elope and then have a wedding when you feel more comfortable

You’re better off eloping or having a small wedding. If you’re both in school with no jobs and estranged from families, how are you planning on paying for a big wedding with 100+ guests? Keep it small and intimate and celebrate the love between the two of you. That’s more important that where, what, when and how.

It sounds like you'd be better off eloping especially since neither of you are currently working. I'm not sure where you'd get the money to pay for a wedding without having jobs.

I have to agree with the previous posters. If you are both students, neither of you has an income, and family is not helping, I don’t see how you would afford a wedding right now (let alone pay your bills?). The fact that you are contemplating postponing your marriage for several years just so you can make friends to attend is very concerning also. Getting married isn’t about having lots of friends present- it should be about 2 mature adults vowing their (legally binding!) commitment to one another. If you are thinking about postponing in order to attempt to make friends to invite to a wedding, it may not be a bad idea to wait and make sure you are actually ready to be married. Do you have a plan in place? Will you both have graduated? Do you both have jobs lined up? Where will you live? How will you pay your bills? How will you afford a wedding?

I’m so sorry that you’re experiencing such unfortunate changes. I know what that feels like! I agree with the other posters—you can always do a larger vow renewal in a few years!

Did you think about eloping. Or going to the court and having a judge marry you guys. And then after you guys could maybe do something you both love to do like hiking, a nice romantic dinner, etc. Just make it special for you 2 and get a two person cake.

Just elope at the courthouse or a similar venue.

Eloping was my first thought as well. Some places offer all-inclusive elopement packages for groups under a certain size. You can have a celebration just for the two of you and then you are still able to hold a big celebration (when you are ready for that) as a vow renewal on your anniversary. It sounds like you are both at a big transition point in your lives and the pandemic has just strained connections that were already weak.



As for officiants, it doesn't have to be expensive to hire someone. At least in VA, any constitutional officer is legally able to officiate. That means all judges, sheriffs, and a few other government officials. My local sheriff will meet a couple anywhere they choose in the county and marry them so long as she has a few days of notice.

Hi dear I'm sorry so much has fallen through for your special day. My planning has been difficult as well. I always thought I would have lots of friends and family by my side to celebrate as well. Our wedding will be both our immediate families and grandparents, about 35 (we got legally married last year).
It has been lonely and hard to plan without a maid of honor, as Ive had to let some friends go the past so many years. I know it is even harder if you have been abused, or are still dealing with abusive and toxic people. Its put you in a very difficult physical emotional and mental place, and it becomes nearly impossible to trust people and make connections.I myself am trying to focus on my personal healing and to stay focused on the positive that I do have. Which is easier said than done as I've shed many tears over the last year-and-a-half of planning. I have to accept the reality of what I do have and focus on that amount of goodness. As we celebrate the genuine, no matter how small, it begins to grow, like a small ember turning into a flame.
What is your budget? Is there any family who is supportive? Consider having a minimony or a simple elopement now, and something bigger next year. But definitely dont involve people who dont bring you joy or dont fully support your celebration. Don't be found by anyone else's expectations especially societies. Do what makes sense for you right now and what brings you the most happiness♡♡♡☆☆☆If you live near Florida, there is a great company in the Keys for something smaller, garden,2 beach or sailboat ceremonies They also specialize in LGBT ceremonies, heres the link:www.southernmostweddings.comand some of their pics.