How to handle rude response??

Are you asking how your mom should respond or how you should? Your mom should just tell your aunt it was a mistake and that mistakes happen. You shouldn’t say anything.

Wow what an overreaction. I often think people like this are just seeking for attention. I’ll simply say it was my bridesmaids who send out all the invitations. I apologize for the oversight. Leave it like that.

"My apologies, it was a typo, it'll be corrected for the wedding invites"

I think everyone here is overreacting. Typos happen and there is nothing wrong with bringing up a typo so it can be corrected.

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I had a similar issue with my family. I accidentally wrote my aunts name on the save the date and sent it to a different family members address ( they have very similar names). The other family member lives with her father, and his name was on the invite so it was an obvious mistake. however that didnt stop them from blowing up my mother saying it was a slap in the face and asking if the family member was indeed invited. I found it SO ridiculus I completely ignored it and told my mom to do the same lol if they want to be upset about somthing so petty then let them be upset and dont let it bother you!!

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Bringing it up gracefully is totally fine. To insult someone's intelligence by indicating that they are unintelligent because of a typo? Rude.

View Quoted Comment Which is why I said both parties overreacted...

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You're saying that I am over-reacting to someone saying that their education was a waste of money because they are butt-hurt over a stranger misspelling their name? No one has even responded to her yet.

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You're right, I should just ignore - she insulted my sister too though which drives me up a wall even more. I can't believe how upset people get!

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I'm sorry you didn't like my response, but yes, I feel like coming on here and complaining about one person's response about having their name misspelled is overreacting. A simple apology and moving on would have sufficed. But, that's just my opinion, which you asked for.

Best of luck.

I think the aunt overreacted. There was absolutely no need for any of that! She owes everyone an apology for acting like a toddler.

Aunt over reacted, took offense where none was meant. Errors happen. However, as far as I can tell from OP, the aunt expressed her outrage in a private communication only addressed to her own sister. Who could easily have responded privately, it was likely a typing errror. I will check the list to make sure it is only a 1 time thing. But no. Mom shows around this letter, to daughter bride and whoever else. That was totally uncalled for. She should be ashamed of herself for passing it around, so a simple complaint by her sister, in private communication, was broadcast around for maximum distress to annyone. That aunt overreacted, little doubt. But it would have quietly distressed no one, either bride, bridesmaid, or anyone else, except for Mom's gossipy sharing. We all vent sometimes, to someone we trust , in private. Just as we all can make a typo. But aunt's caustic remarks would have ended there, if not for mom. To OP, the only advice I could give would be to ask Mom to keep things that are negative about others, heard or read in private communications, to herself. To avoid causing more trouble in the future. Aunt's nasty comment is like an annoying mosquito bite. Mom scratched it to a major infection and spread it. She should have left it alone. You should leave it alone . I hope no one told the bridesmaid.

You aunt way over-reacted. She would be sitting in the least desirable table at the reception if it were up to me.

I agree with most of these responses. If someone else is able to respond, I would let them. If I had to say anything myself, I would leave it at, "We apologize for the error. We'll make sure to fix it on your invitation." I think a brief response would say more to her about how rude it was than anything else.

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Sorry but you're making an assumption that isn't true. Mom shared with only me *for a reason* - because she thought I would be misspelling her name on the wedding invitation as well. She specifically said "can you make sure it's spelled correctly" and she also asked that I not tell my sister what happened. Your response is uncalled for and makes so many assumptions that aren't true.

Your great aunt sounds like a real peach lol. When some people get close to "matriarch" age, they look for ANYTHING to be offended by, because some great aunt was probably hard on them when they were younger. Your bridesmaid was just being helpful, your sister knows how to spell her last name and it wasn't a mistake of malice, of course. Some people are never going to pleased. Just let your mom know that it won't happen again. If great aunt causes a fuss over something else, then that would be the time to address her directly about her grievances! Good luck with wedding planning!

There are many ways that you or your mom could respond. Personally, I would respond and would simply say, "I was made aware of the spelling error on the envelope. It was an honest mistake and I'm sorry if you were offended." That way, she knows her snotty comment made it's way back to you, gives her the apology she was obviously craving, and also kind of letting her know how petty it was.

View Quoted Comment I stand by my criticism of the person who gets others upset by passing the story on. If your mom, having read the caustic note by aunt in a personal communication, thought you needed to check your lists and make sure her name was not misspelled on your master list, so it would not happen again, all she needed to say to you was, my sister sent me a note saying she was upset her name was wrong on the shower invitation. I told her it must be a typo. But would you check your list, to be sure it does not happen again? . . . Your mom instead showed you what was intended by the sender ( who likely thought she could trust her sister your mom) to be a private communication between sisters. Which is the cause of you getting upset, and thinking badly of your aunt, and you passing it on here, and asking how to respond to that email. If mom did not show you the email,and simply told sister, it was a typo, you would not be aware of any nastiness. . Why some people have no respect for things said by family or friends in private letters, emails, or conversation, your aunt to your mother, here, I do not know. No need to pass them on to other family, or friends, or or social media, as so many people thoughtlessly do. Creating trouble, and bad feeling, unnecessarily.

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Okay, welp, could've, would've, should've does me no good - people's advice to have her just say it was a bridesmaids error seems simple enough.