How to handle a possible Bridezilla

She basically said she doesn't care what you do with your hair so go ahead and find someone on Yelp or elsewhere to do your hair/makeup if you want it done.

Wait, I am confused. If she told you she doesn't care, then what more do you need?

Vine I'm guessing OP feels that her saying that is not because she doesn't care but that the bride doesn't want to be outshined. I'd recommend researching on style seat.

Can you call her sister? I was one of the " I don't care" brides in the matter of what they did with their hair, as long as it was a normal color ( not purple or bright red etc). She may know the plan for the hair, if no plan I would practice making it extra cute for the day.

I maybe overthinking this. I'm a planner so this kinda thing makes me anxious I guess.

The sister is a no go. The wedding is country chic and we are wearing short dresses and cowboy boots the sister is 17, goth planning to spoil the wedding by wearing dark makeup and dr marten combat boots.

I only kinda know one other bridesmaid (the original first MOH) who is now a regular BM. I guess I'm just nervous period to deal with this situation. It's her day and I don't want to cause anymore drama

I don't understand your problem. I feel like you're inventing drama where there is none. Just figure out who you want to do your hair and makeup or do it yourself. Done.

Y'all are right. I'm overthinking this whole deal. Thanks for the advice.

So, the bride doesn't care. Figure it out on your own. I don't see the problem, especially since you are a planner. Plan it.

Next, how is the goth child sister going to "spoil" the wedding? Seriously? How are dark makeup and Dr. Martens going to ruin someone's wedding? Will they be any less married?

@newfuturemrs The child sister threatens the bride that she will wear that and the bride says "you will ruin my wedding" not me. I think she is beautiful and can pull the look off flawlessly.

But this is my problem in itself. She says idc as long as your hair is brushed and you don't look better than me but when other maids tell her things that they want to do or suggestions she has full blown panic attacks about how small things or ppl will "ruin" her wedding.

This is why I would prefer she tell me what she wants me to do rather than suggesting or doing it in my own and she be pissed off.

I'm not even really close to the girl my FH is the Best Man and really the only reason I'm in the wedding.

She is emotionally blackmailing a child. That is beyond bridezilla. It's not okay. I don't blame that kid. If my adult sister told me, at 17(!) that I was personally responsible for ruining her wedding, I'd probably show up in what she would consider much worse than dark fucking makeup. From what you've said, it sounds like this bride would rather her baby sister not show up at all.

Speaking of which... why are you going? Why are you putting yourself through this nonsense? Expended time and money don't seem worth it. This bride doesn't seem to give two shits.

My FH and her FH are like brothers so I'm going for him. I'm in it because she had 0 friends when he proposed and only needed to fill spots for the amount of groomsmen he had. At the start of this she seemed nice but a lot has changed due to stress with school, on and off again friends and wedding planning. Not trying to make excuses for her just trying to give benefit of the doubt.

There may be a reason she didn't have anyone to "fill those spots". Big red flag that she was only looking for props to even out the groomsmen.

I really do commend you for trying to be there for her, but there may be a very good reason that there was no one else. It sounds like she pushes people away. I would try to give her the benefit of the doubt, too.

...to a point.

I think you just want suggestions from her as to where to get you hair done because you are not familiar with the area. If she isn't helpful, follow pp advice and look on yelp. You could even use the vendor tab here.

I honestly forgot about the vendor tab on here.

I'm funny about my hair and want someone good. Regardless if she cares what I look like I care.

Idk it's just a crazy situation

Call her sister or ask another bridesmaid that's in the area.

"Step away, not today."

If she's not providing feedback, ask the other BMs, and then just figure out something for yourself. Also, why would you keep pushing the bride to respond if you know she's likely to overreact anyway?

@misss I haven't been pushing her I've asked her 3 times over a 1 1/2 year engagement and didn't get much of a response and none of the other BMs (that I know 3 of 10) know either. It's like someone forgot that detail.

I understand where you are coming from. You see this bride and know that seemingly little details can set her off. It sounds like you are in a tough situation. Is your FH from that area? If he is maybe you could check with someone in his family or ask if the groom has family you could ask. If neither of those are options are viable, I would do what TimeLadyErika suggested and check the vendors here. But it sounds like you are trying to be a good bridesmaid and getting experience for your own wedding (as far as thinking about how your bridesmaids are thinking and what is asked of them).

Sounds like what I went through with my friend's wedding now looking back on it I wish I had told her no and not be her bridesmaid.

Eeww. Honestly, I wouldn't pay for hair and makeup for this broad's wedding. She sounds awful.