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Destanie
Beginner May 2020

How to get hubby excited about wedding planning again?

Destanie, on June 24, 2020 at 6:14 PM Posted in Planning 0 8
So like a lot of women, my wedding was supposed to be this year and has been indefinitely postponed due to the pandemic. My husband and I decided we wanted to be married now and didn’t want to wait who knows how long to have a reception and eloped about a month ago. But the problem is, I still want the big white wedding I’ve been planning for over a year now and he is completely burned out thinking about it. Every time I try to bring it up or start planning again he shuts down and says he’s too tired to think about it right now. How do I get him excited about it again? When we first got engaged he was really involved in planning but by the last few months he was over it and wouldn’t help me. We basically have to start over from square one here and I can’t do it alone!

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Latest activity by Sara, on June 25, 2020 at 10:54 AM
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Maybe if there's a specific thing he's into he can be in charge of that? for instance my husband wanted to be in charge of the alcohol so he was really into doing the research for that part and the purchasing of it, etc.

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  • Mrs. S
    Super November 2019
    Mrs. S ·
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    After we booked the venue, my husband didn’t get excited about our wedding until 18 months later when it was happening. I narrowed down vendors and choices to 2-3 options and said which one do you want. And if he didn’t give me a straight answer I just picked.
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  • Belle
    VIP August 1997
    Belle ·
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    OP, I think you need to find out why he shuts down whenever the theme wedding comes up. It could be soooo many things.


    My dh was never excited about our wedding. At least he is not showing it and he is not planning anything except buying a ring and a ring case and pay the venue deposit. He does NOTHING to the wedding plan unless I told him “you need shoes, you need the pants, etc” and if I told him to get those he just click click and gets it. He doesn’t make the effort comparing what style, what material, etc. It is his choice. I am THE ONLY FREAKING PERSON who was excited. Well, I am not that excited anymore knowing my whole family and friends doesn’t show ANY excitement for me. It’s sucks, I get you.
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  • Micah
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    Micah ·
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    My fiance is worried about money and COVID, which are both valid worries. He's not able to get overtime rn and also he is in a state where COVID is spiking again. So any mention of wedding gets pretty tense. I am very detailed and eant him to be involved with the planning process but his reaction sometimes makes me not want to talk with him about my thoughts or plans about the wedding
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    I think you need to dig into why he's "tired". This whole mess has really gotten into people's heads, and he could very well be dealing with a lot of stress, or even depression.

    It might be best to hold off on planning for a bit, until you both are feeling less stress, and have a better idea of what will be safe in your state.

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    Alex ·
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    I would take a break for a few months and just enjoy your marriage. NO PLANNING AT ALL. After some time off, it will be way easier to get excited!

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  • Martha
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    Martha ·
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    I agree, slowly once we overcome this pandemic and things begin to be back to normal he'll be more open to it He may not dive into it as he had before but he'll try. I'm sorry you had yo cancel the wedding.

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  • Sara
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    Sara ·
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    I was having the same problem. As soon as covid started he shut down and I had to do all the rest of the planning. We decided this last Monday that we were postponing to next year, and he is so happy and relieved that he is back to throwing ideas as to what we should do for next year. He is also getting excited planning our small camping honeymoon for this year after we get married at the courthouse. Just give him a month to cool down and not have to think about weddings and he will be back into it again!
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