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How to explain wedding list constraints?

Dachelle, on February 3, 2019 at 11:01 AM Posted in Planning 0 4

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Based on both budget and the venue, we can't invite everyone I would like to the wedding and reception (both at the same location) I have to make some hard decisions but one of the decisions I've made is to not have children at the wedding unless they are out of town or in the wedding. However, we're getting married at The Magic House in St. Louis so it's a very kid friendly place. How do I tell people that even though we're basically having the wedding at a giant playground, kids can't come??

Also, I'd like to post something on FB when we get closer to the date 6/6/20, that we would love to have everyone there but our budget will only allow so many people. Have any of you done that and how did it come across?

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Latest activity by dancingwiththekumars, on February 3, 2019 at 4:37 PM

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Caytlyn · on February 3, 2019 at 11:10 AM
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First I would definitely refrain from posting about your guest list, or most wedding business in general, on social media. Everyone has a budget for their wedding, everyone's budget limits their guest list. There's no need to tell your entire friend list about it. Doing so is just opening you up to a bunch of conversations you don't need to have.
By simply not addressing kids on the invitations, you're letting the parents know that they're not invited. "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" instead of "The Smith Family," should be enough of a hint. Make sure on RSVP cards you put "We have reserved _2_ seats in your honor." If guests ask, simply let them know that while you wish you could invite everyone, the budget and capacity limit won't allow that. I wouldn't use the terms "no kids" or "adults only" since you're inviting some children and not others.
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· on February 3, 2019 at 12:27 PM
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I’ve seen a wedding while at the magic house, it is gorgeous!! I would do like the other mentioned, just put the adults on the invites and say you’ve reserved x amount of seats for them. I have 10 & 12 year old boys and would actually prefer not to take them to a wedding at the magic house. Yes, it is a giant playground but two big things are: 1. They would ask “when can we play?!” ALL evening. 2. The crowds can be insane! This is the one place that we have taken our boys to and I wished I could still put one of those backpack leashes on them. 🤣 The adults could make an evening out of it and enjoy your wedding kid free then grab a hotel and some brunch at Rooster the next morning.
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Dachelle · on February 3, 2019 at 12:41 PM
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Thank you so much for the suggestion!!
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dancingwiththekumars · on February 3, 2019 at 4:37 PM
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Agreed. We put one line on our ceremony invite about this event being an adult affair or something. But we did invite a few kids (neice nephew & my dance students), but they were specifically listed on their invites.

Honestly, you are way too stressed and don’t owe an explanation to anyone. Don’t post about it. Even with an explanation, some people don’t get it!
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