How to do return addresses when the bride is a doctor (but not the groom), and she is keeping her maiden name

What if u used mr brown and mrs blue brown md.

Perhaps this isn’t the most polite way to do it, but I’ve chosen to completely leave off the names from the return address. I’m not changing my name either when my fiancé and I get married... Rather than trying to fit both our ridiculously long full names with titles, we have the address only printing on the envelopes.

Congrats on almost finishing med school! That's definitely something to be proud of so I understand why you would want to use it. I would either do just first names or Mr and Mrs in this situation though. If you are dead set on using Dr then do Dr you and Mr him. I don't see anything wrong with any of the choices.

We used our first names only. What about using 2 lines for the names instead of trying to fit both names on one line?

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So when you say "Mr. & Mrs." you mean "Mr. Sanders and Mrs. Andrews"? Because we still aren't Mr. & Mrs. Sanders. I won't freak out if anyone accidentally calls me "Mrs. Sanders" but it's just not technically my name.

First names only!!

My friend got married and did the same thing. She goes with Dr. Andrews and Mr. Sanders. I would do that or just go with first names. Of course you can choose the title you want, but you’re not really a Mrs.

You're correct that it would be your name before his based on rank if you choose to do the titles and I like PP suggestion of using two separate lines for it to fit.

Personally I'd just stick with first names so that you can send out any thank you notes for early presents as you get them. It doesn't look as formal, but I wouldn't personally be comfortable sending anything with Dr on it before you're actually awarded the title. If you definitely won't be sending any until after the wedding then I would use your full names. It's an easy way of making sure people know that you've kept your maiden name

View Quoted Comment Sorry I meant to write it out but yes because if you're not taking his name it wouldn't make sense to use it for thank you notes.

I would just use first names on your thank you cards if you don't want to use two different lines.

Just put Sanders-Andrews and forget the first names and titles for the purposes of your thank you cards.

According to my boss, who is a dr. without the same last name as her husband, any mailings can be addressed with him first but, it needs to reflect the title. ie. Mr. John Smith and Dr. Jane Doe.

Hope that helps.

I have a similar situation but I haven’t fully decided if I’m changing my name or not. I’m already a dr. and so I had been thinking about the actual wedding. For example when the bride and groom get introduced at the reception I’m still thinking I want my MC to say Mr. and Mrs. “Smith” even though I’m really Dr. “Doe”. Idk I just feel like introducing us as anything else takes away from the fact that we are married lol. I already celebrated becoming Dr. Doe last year. I plan to go by Mrs. smith socially regardless of if I legally change my name or not but I’m not sure if that will get complicated. But back to your question.... if you don’t mind it being casual then first names only. If you want it more formal I like what PP said her friend does and put his name first and then Dr with your name. I think it still shows some tradition of having the man first while reflecting your true identity.

View Quoted Comment My friend who got married last year didn’t change her name and she just had her MC introduce them like “for the first time as a married couple, John and Jane!” So that’s an option!

View Quoted Comment Oh that’s a good idea thanks!

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Yup, we are having the officiant say "I'd like to introduce Greg Sanders and Megan Andrews, the new Mr. & Mrs.!"

I think first name only sounds nice almost more personal in my opinion

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Me too. I'm having such a hard time with the name change. I always wanted to change growing up, then didn't once I got my doctorate, and now because of my job am thinking that I need to change it. And generally these types of things don't bug me, but it's really been bugging me that everything is "miss to mrs" and whatnot. Nope I will never be a Mrs and I wish the bridal industry had swag to reflect that!

I know how exciting it is to put the Dr. on everything....I still can't believe I have the title and have nightmares that they'll take it back somehow! I'd say that if your stationary is more informal, just put first names, or first name/last names. If you stationary is more formal, add in the titles and maybe do 2 lines. The tile is something to be proud of (and I'm still trying to figure out how much to work it into our wedding without it becoming too crazy). If I end up going with the super formal invites with all our parents titles listed out, then I will list mine and FH's too.