How To Disinvite a Family Member??

Im not sure how one would do that. i had issues with people being invited by my mother (whom wasnt invited herself) and i did a "canceled!!!!" on every oone then only re invited those we really wanted and kept the whole thin on the down down down down low. and now were doing it all over to invite all the not invited. but i have no idea how that would work for you. maybe FH could tell her i know you really dont like my bride and you know you really dont have to come. infact we would be happy to send you a copy of the video! lol im mean like that. hopefully she doesnt even want to attend. so would be willing to not show at all! best wishes and good luck! xo

Wow that is a good idea. I am so glad it helped for you. Well even if she wants to attend, she is not welcome! The wedding is occurring at my parent's residence estate, and this Aunt steals, lies, and draws attention to herself in every negative way fashion...she is the type that just so she is center of attention would stand up and object. This doesn't even include the lies she spread about me for the only purpose to gain the attention of others (the family knows she lies and is nuts). So basically, not only do I want her or her husband there, but my parents have actually stated too that she's not welcome on the property. I guess I am just wondering if FH should sit down and talk to her and tell or or if both of us should or if it should be done now vs. closer to the wedding?

Humm that is a hard one but Do not send her an invite. If she asks or brings up the topic of attending you answer right away that your wedding plans have changed and you are having a much smaller wedding than you originally thought. This will of course get sticky when she asks family or friends, who are invited, but you have to tell her the truth if she asks. Otherwise you are leading her on and thats not right, no matter how Disrespectful or depolrable she is. I'm sorry you have to go through this. Good Luck.

Just do not send her an invite, but also don't invite her to the shower. And have your Fh talk to his grandfather and explain why she is not invited so that he doesn' say ohhh well it must be coming or somethign. Also FH should talk to his mom or dad who ever's sis this is so they know the scoop. If aunt asks tell her why straight out. Sorry you have been quite rude to us and we only want peple there who love and support both of us, we only want well wishers and didn't feel you are so.

Married MyTrue Love, you make a very good point! Honesty, even if it's not fun to hear, is definitely the way to go. FH will be the one communicating with her as she has been blocked from my life for the last 4 months (that is how bad she is). So I will wish him GL on that one. And WasSoon2BMrsSmith, she's not invited to the shower. I don't want this woman anywhere near me...it's quite sad that she has been this way b/c the rest of FH family is so loving! But the way you worded how to talk to her is a great way to word it. It's to the point, honest, and gets the message across without access information!

Hmm.. well i had my service at my aunts and a cousin of mine is well known for being a lier and thief not to mention a drug addict. and he is not welcome to my aunts although his sister and parents will be in attendance. i had to make it clear to him he was not invited i hated to put the blame on my aunt and i didnt want him there any way. so i told him (over the phone for the fear of a fight) i loved him but i thought it was best if didnt come i said i didnt think he would like the crowed. hes not religious so i told him that i had family from out of town that would be ther and they are very religious and that fh family was too. i assured him i will send his parents with a favor for him and a plate and a peice of cake he wasnt happy but and got awefully loud but i did my best and stayed calm. he felt unwanted and unwelcome and didnt attend. i mailed his mom a copy of the video. i have no idea if he seen it or not. also i let her take him a very large slice of cake and 2 favors.

Thankfully, my parent's are more than happy to take the blame (they are wonderful people), so if need be we do have the out of "we are sorry, but in light of the last years events, my parents are not allowing you to come..." but we want that as a last resort. Sending a copy of the video sounds good though

If you do have to invite her, sit her closest to the DJ where it'll be too loud for anyone who tries to hear her.

We don't HAVE to invite her...we've made the decision not to invite her, it's just figuring out how to go about telling her that without causing more issues than she has already caused.

Don't send her an address. I would go as far as to hand delivery the grandfathers with just his name so that he has one. If your FH is willing to talk to her let him or his parents (preferrable the one who is her sibling). Good Luck.

Hand delivering the Grandfather's invitation is a PERFECT idea that we didn't even think of. Thank you! FH doesn't have parents (they are both dead), so he would be the one communicating with her about her not being invited. My parent's will take the fall/blunt if needed. Thanks for all the advice!