How to Differentiate

What are the bridesmaid colors ? And the groomsmen aren’t wearing ties? I had a male in my bridal party and he wore the same thing as the groomsmen except different color. The groomsmen has a green tie and the male bridal party member had a pink tie. But both wore white dress shirts and gray slacks

Whenever I've seen mixed-sex bridal parties, the men and women always wore the same thing regardless of which side they stood on. They were only differentiated by which side they stood on. It always looked fine to me 🤷‍♀️.

I agree with your fiancé, I think it’s nice when the girls and guys match even on different sides. You’re joining family and friends now so I think it’s kind of symbolic too.

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The bridesmaids are going to be in a dark red. Our theme is Christmas in July! They will be wearing long ties rather than bow ties. Their ties are going to be dark red to match the bridesmaids dresses.

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I guess I just should have some way to make them stand out so that his friend doesn't look like a bridesmaid and my brother doesn't look like a groomsman in group photos. I had thought maybe different flowers or something for the girl, but not sure about my brother.

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Thanks! I guess in my mind I just wanted them to look slightly different.

You can change something small, like a different boutonniere or pocket square color for your brother and a different bouquet or jewlery for his sister.

View Quoted Comment Are you doing boutonnieres? Your brother can have a different one from the groomsmen and as someone else suggested, maybe the groomswoman can have a corsage or something.

So when I went to a wedding where there were groomswomen they wore the same dress style as the bridesmaids, but the color of the groomsmen suits. So the bridesmaids were in pink dresses. The groomsmen were in navy suits, and the groomswomen were in navy dresses.


I think that’s a good idea for your husband’s groomswoman. For your bridesman.... what color tie/vests are the groomsmen wearing? Maybe he could differentiate with a different color tie?

Maybe your brother could wear a vest to match the BM colors?

I’m having my 3 brothers as bridesmen, and they will be wearing the same tux as the groomsmen. Personally, I think having your brother stand on your side during the ceremony is enough to not have him appear to be another groomsmen, but I agree with the others that if you really want to do something to set him apart, maybe do a different style boutonnière or perhaps a pocket square to match the bridesmaid dresses.

Honestly, just the simple fact that they will be standing on one side or the other makes them stand out. People will notice that your Brother is standing by you.

I think the flower idea sounds good. I was thinking the groomswoman could have a boutoniere/pin corsage, but then I'm guessing your brother wouldn't want a bouquet. If your bridesmaids bouquets are multiple types of flowers and the groomsmen's boutonieres are only one flower, you could have a few of the smaller flowers from the bridesmaids bouquets put into your brother's boutoniere and have the groomswoman's bouquet made entirely of the kind of flower that's in the boutonieres. Your fiancés opinion matters, but yours matters at least as much as his (and I think most people would agree the bride's opinion is a little bit more important).

So my husband didn't have any groomswomen, but my brother was my man of honor. Husband wore a custom made 3 piece tweed suit, groomsmen wore black suits no vest, amd my brother had a black tuxedo with an ivory vest and tie to match my bridesmaids in ivory. We also used a swatch of my wedding dress as my brother's pocket square. It was a subtle enough difference to make my brother stand out but not as much as the groom
Groom and groomsmen:

Brother and bridesmaids (and me):
Me and brother:
Me and Groom and best friend: