How to deal with rude people?

I feel I did not respond right to him and am super frustrated now and insecure. What would you say or should I just wait and respond better next time? Thanks a lot in advance.

People are going to say rude things all the time. Just brush it off and ignore it. Also, don't tell people details of your wedding and you won't get comments about it.

As long as a legal marriage is happening it's a wedding. I'd tell him to calorie count his own damn self.

Honestly, what he says is more telling of his own issues. Try to let it go. I heard a lot of shit about "losing weight" before the wedding and it hurt. I tried to push past it by thinking about how all of the extra hour of work and time away from working out would benefit our wedding and make for a better guest experience. I thought about how my body looks doesn't dictate anything about our relationship or happiness. Try not to let it get to you!

Thank you both!

You say screw them in your head, do what you want to have a happy and healthy life

I'm not as nice as other people on this forum. If one person said anything about my weight I would tell them to fuck right off. Family does not get a free pass to be assholes. I treat them the way I would treat anyone else who is rude to me. If you don't teach people how to treat others then they will continue with their shitty ways.

Stand up for yourself against these people. Don't feel self-conscious because losing 4 dress sizes is a great accomplishment. And it doesn't matter if there are 10 people or 400 at your wedding. The only three that you really need are you, your FH, and the officiant.

Thanks! They are here for 3 more days. I am pretty sure that gives me an opportunity to stand up more for myself I wish it would come naturally to me.

I do not know how to respond to the answers I got without bumping my own thread up.... well I guess I wait until the evening... Just wanted to say thank you all for your kindness and suggestions. I ll sign up here later on. Wish you all a good day

I have a few go-to responses when dealing with rude people:

Rude question? "I'll forgive you for asking if you'll forgive me for not answering" Or "Why do you want to know?"

Rude comments? "That's nice" said with a bland smile. Alternatively: "I'm an adult and can make my own choices, but you're certainly entitled to your own opinions" Then move the conversation along to another topic.

Don't waste yourself on these negative people.

Wrap yourself with

happy thoughts as you prepare for your wedding.

I like "Why would you say that to me?" as a response. It forces them the justify their rudeness which most people don't like to do.

It is absolutely wrong for them to bring up weight/disparage your guest list but I find myself stuck on: in what world is ketchup "high in calories"? 20 calories a tablespoon. Unless you're drinking it, you're good.

Say nothing, just stare with a straight face until everyone is super uncomfortable.

just kidding.....kind of.

So rude, just smile and let it go

There is two things that happen when someone says something rude: 1.. the person receiving the rude comment gets mad and 2. the person saying the comment has no idea it can be perceived as rude.

If you find yourself in a situation again where rude remarks are being said and you find that you can't keep ignoring it, a polite response of "thank you for your opinion; however, we have different ideas about....." would suffice to let them know that their statement is exactly what it is 'their opinion'.

I agree with these posters: "Are you REALLY telling me what I should weigh?: Then I wold follow up with "Yes I can always lose weight but you will always be an ass."

They are just awful! Tell Uncle that he must be related to Trump and you can't wait to expect a check in mail in the amount of $50,000 to pay for the extra 220 guests he wants you to invite! Next time he mentions your weight, tell him, "Well I'm glad I'm not marrying you. And I'm also very happy that FH finds me sexy just the way I am, so there!" This guy is a narcissist and wants to make himself feel good by making others feel bad about themselves. Stand up for yourself and remember, a little pre-wedding sarcasm goes a long way. Be confident. Your beautiful!