Hello everyone, I am writing this because I am almost at my breaking point with my in-laws and so is my fiance. We informed his mother before we even were engaged that we planned on getting married in Las Vegas (we are from the Maryland area). We informed her we did not want a large wedding and wanted close family and friends to be there. Right away she told us no, we were not allowed to do that. We informed her my parents had already agreed to going to Vegas for the wedding and it was our wedding and what we wanted to do. She told us she would not be attending. David (my fiance), knowing his mother invited her again and told her we needed a head count. She did a 360 and said she and her husband would now be coming. We told her we would be over at some point (we live about an hour away from her) to help her book a room near us or in the same hotel as us. We are not getting married until May 2021. I guess us telling her we'd check our schedules and get over there soon to help her look at hotels was not good enough for her. She began texting us on Saturday about two weeks ago knowing we are busy every Saturday (we volunteer at a bird sanctuary and Saturdays are our days to be there all day) asking where we were staying and how she needed a plane ticket right now. I texted her back (we are in a group chat) since David was busy and informed her that the plane tickets weren't that far out and reassured her we would be over soon to help her look at hotels and she needed to figure out how much she wanted to spend on her room. I guess my response wasn't what she wanted to hear because she began calling David constantly even though he was meeting with some people about a bird they wanted to rescue. He had to excuse himself from working with them calling me in and went to talk to her on the phone. I could hear her screaming at him over the phone even though i was feet away from him. He came over and told me everything she had said as well. She told him on the phone (in a extremely nasty tone) "your future bride-to-be isn't giving me any information about your wedding and is withholding information from me. we've been texting all morning. why is she being such a b***h to me?" and David responded with for one do not call her that, for another i didn't even know the two of you were texting. she continued to be extremely nasty and informed him they would not be coming to the wedding. He in the end ended up hanging up on her because she just wouldn't stop or listen to him. He looked at the messages and saw the 4 texts between us (her texting, me responding) and was like how exactly were you being a b***h???
We've been together for 6 years now. In the past 2 she has become extremely negative towards me. We even used to live within minutes from her and ended up moving an hour away so she would stop coming into our home and stealing things from us. (that's a different story lol).
If anyone could give some advice towards how they would handle this I would appreciate it, we are beyond lost and not sure what to do. The wedding cost has fallen completely on my parents because they refuse to give any money towards the wedding. We told her she didn't have to give any towards the actual wedding but if she could HELP (not even pay the whole thing) pay towards the celebration we plan on having back home to invite the people who are not coming to Vegas. She right away told us absolutely not.
