How To Deal With Momzilla...

You just don't really involve them much or tell them about your planning. i didn't tell my mom much about what i was doing.

Is she giving inputs about the venue after hearing about the price because she's paying/helping to pay for the wedding?

If not, you deal with it by not giving her any info. Info train stops here. If she asks, give vague responses. If she gives unsolicited input:

"Thanks, but we decided we want to do x. How's that show you love?

"We'll think about it. What's going on at work?"

"That's not going to work for us. I'm hungry--want to eat?"

You don’t involve them. If asked, just say “It’s a secret! We want to surprise our guests.” If you want to involve her let her make the favors or something you don’t care about.

It depends on if she’s paying or not. If you are paying for it then she doesn’t get any say and I would intentionally not tell her things if she’s going to give her opinion every time. If she is contributing then I think you have to ask yourself if the contribution is worth dealing with it. Personally I say no. I didn’t tell my family or friends much of anything other than where to be and when.

Is she paying for the wedding? If the answer is yes then she definitely has a say in the plans, but if the answer is no then I wouldn't involve in planning. Everyone is always going to have an opinion so I found the less I shared the better.

Echoing PPs, if you are paying for it, just try not to involve her. I know the natural instinct is to tell your mom everything, but if she's negative it's not worth it! At least avoid telling her how much things cost. My FMIL is super negative when talking about money (even though they are very well off) and her response to literally everything is "that's soooo expensive" or "wow you must be rich" (we make wayyyyyy less money than them and she knows that, but ok). Our wedding is expensive but it's our dream wedding and we have saved and worked hard to pay for it, so we just stopped telling her how much things cost, even if she brings it up.

If shes paying she has every right to question the pricing and maybe shes concerned about it so shes acting like she just doesnt like the venue


if youre paying then i would just tell her u have your dream wedding already planned and your choices are non-negotiable

It helps to sit down and make a list of your priorities with your FH (does this venue you LOVE even have the right capacity, location, available dates, price, preferred vendor list, rental hours, etc?) Then share that list with your mom. I gave mine my copy of A Practical Wedding Planner- she even made her own list of priorities, haha.
It may highlight why you don’t see eye to eye on things. Then when you get into disagreements you can point back to how your choice meets your requirements- it won’t eliminate all fights but will help you both to see the other side. (Especially if she is contributing to the wedding and thus should get an opinion!)

I’ll play devils advocate here- everyone is saying she has a right to make wedding decisions if she’s helping to pay. I don’t fully agree here. People OFFERING to help pay for a wedding would fall in line of a gift. Gifts don’t come with strings attached. They’re offered because someone loves you and wants to give you something you’d like/would help you out. Giving someone a “gift” of money and then telling them how they have to spend it is not a gift- it’s a really backhanded way to get something for themselves and guilting you into it while making themselves look like the hero.

Leave negative Nancy out of it or at least limit your distance and the amount of details she knows.

Yep moms putting in their two cents seems to be almost universal among all brides lol. Is she paying for the wedding? Is it possible its out of budget and she was beating around the bush? Even if she is though, most parents who offer to pay for a wedding expect that you will still be in charge of the decisions. Only way Id say pick a different venue is if someones gonna go totally broke paying for it lol

I know it's your mom, but speaking from experience you just tell them as little as possible. I don't tell my mom all the details because she's strange & I just don't want to hear it, it looks like you'll have to be similar. I'd just tell her things after you've made decisions. Even if she is chipping in financially, she still has no right to act like that & wouldn't really have a say in the venue you chose.