How to deal with feuding family!

Extend an invitation to whomever you want in attendance. They need to resolve their issues elsewhere and hopefully have enough maturity to be civil at your wedding.

I recommend that you invite everyone you want as you normally would, and leave it up to them to decide what to do. They will hopefully be able to set aside their differences for your wedding, drama-free.

Have a talk with each of them and let them know your expectations. That you expect them to be cordial because it’s your day and you’d like to have them both in attendance.

View Quoted Comment This, exactly. They are adults, and need to use their company manners, setting a good example for children and others. When you have a conflict, in public you smile and nod at each other, and mind your manners, then seek other company. Save any drama for private times. Mo reason for either to stay home. seat them a ways apart. If either of them tries to get you to exclude the other, exclude whoever is asking. Quietly. If you cannot behave like an adult, leave and we will see you in a few months, but you will not be welcome at the wedding.

That is his mom and unless he and she are not speaking she should be invited. I agree to maybe call both parties in advance to forewarn but other wise they need to be adults. They can keep their distance or they other can choose to decline but at least you did your part and invite them.

My husband's older brother and sister are estranged from his dad, but we still invited them and their families. His older brother's children were our flower girls and ring bearer. We made sure to sit them far apart to minimize possible interaction. Everyone was able to get along and act like adults because they knew we wouldn't have put up with fighting or drama at our wedding.

View Quoted Comment We're not going to have a seating arrangement. Any advice for a ceremony with no specified seating?

View Quoted Comment My advice would be to assigned tables because that's going to be the only way to guarantee they don't sit near each other or fight who gets to sit by them.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I didnt want exclude anyone but I also didnt want the day messed up by an argument. Thanks again for the great advice.

View Quoted Comment My thoughts exactly! It’s not about them and if one can’t be cordial then don’t come 🤷🏾‍♀️

View Quoted Comment It's pretty common to assign seating for immediate family even if you're not doing it for anyone else. Usually you just mark off the first row or two and tell people that's where they'll sit, but it wouldn't be weird to put names on certain seats for parents, siblings, and grandparents if you have them. If you don't want to do that, but you have ushers, you can tell them to make sure the mom and sister are seated on opposite sides of the aisle.

I would invite everyone and they just need to be adults about it