So my wedding isn't until October 2022 but just discussing things with my fiancé I don't really know what to do. We had our venue food tasting on Sunday and picked a menu. I really wanted a nice brunch wedding on a Sunday, but since food/alcohol was important to him we decided to just go for a normal (more expensive) meal option and the mid level bar package. Something that is important to me is not having children present, he has 2 nephews and 4 nieces (but right now we are not inviting his brother, sister-in-law and their two kids for drama reasons) so that leaves one nephew and 3 nieces. Anyways, my side of the family has no young kids, and his has quite a few. I think we are up to 15 kids and at the time of the wedding would be ages 11 and under. I'm willing to compromise with immediate family kids only, meaning his 1 nephew and 3 nieces since they are very close and his uncles kids because they are older in high school and middle school but the toddlers and babies I'd rather not have for obvious reasons.
He also wants to give all single people (not engaged, not in relationship at all) a plus one. I get its nice and would help people feel less awkward if they don't know someone but I just don't want an inflated guest list like that. We've already upped the food/alcohol price so I'd like to cut back on the guest list a bit.
Any suggestions/help/advice?