How to Avoid Discussing the Details of Your Wedding with a Gossipy Manager

Honestly if you want to keep your private life private then do so. When she says, it's like you're a hard person to get close to just tell her that for your personality you don't like to share everything. We have a couple of teachers in our department they don't talk about their personal lives but me and some of the other co-workers we talked about just how we're feeling around that time of the month. If anything just say oh we're just having a little small wedding I don't like to talk too much about the details. Just tell that you're naturally a private person.

I feel this. Although my boss isn't gossipy, I work with a very small department (4 including me) and sometimes they ask me how wedding planning is going. 😣 I try to beat around the bush to avoid giving any details as I don't want to invite coworkers... It's hard to navigate!

I would politely remind her that your work and personal life are separate, and planning a wedding isnt the same as maternity leave.

Your wedding is none of her business, don't be afraid to tell her that in a professional way.

Say you hired a wedding planner (whether or not you actually did), so you won’t be spending time planning the wedding during work time.

I've got a coworker that although isn't a manager can be gossipy but I also try to stay on her good side. She comes around every week or two wanting to live vicariously through my wedding planning. I share just a bit, and very generally. I've very private and would prefer to share nothing, but I'm good with sharing the very little bit I do and that seems to satisfy her.