How to ask your friends to be your bridesmaids?

I asked all of my bridesmaids through a text lol but I'm also cheap and they'll be getting a present closer to the wedding day.

I already asked them but I wanted to send them a box of cute stuff too haha to make it official

You can give them a gift or a "proposal box" if you want. I called my MOH, and went out to breakfast with my two brides folks and asked them. FW texted her's. Its really just about how you love.

The bridesmaid proposal boxes you see are totally unnecessary and often put more pressure on the person you're asking. I asked mine in person when we were out for dinner one night. You don't need to do anything elaborate, just asking them is meaningful enough. Gifts are given at the wedding/rehearsal as a thank you to them

Thanks everyone for the advice

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Good luck! Personally, I would not want to be "proposed" to as a bridesmaid. Not sure when this became a thing but it puts way too much pressure on the bridesmaid. Just take each girl out for coffee and ask. Easy peasy.

That is completely up to you. I saw no reason to give a gift to ask them to be a bridesmaid. I feel like a gift on the wedding day as a thank you is plenty. That being said my bridesmaid (future SIL) is a few hours away from me. I sent her a card i bought online that said "Now act surprised like you had no idea this was coming" and "Will you be my bridesmaid" in the inside of the card. Then wrote some other things about being a bridesmaid in her wedding and making more memories when she is in mine, etc. A card or phone call would be great. Having 7 or 8 the cost alone for gifts just to ask could add up.

To each their own, but a proposal box is a completely unnecessary expense when you're about to spend $$ on a wedding. If you want to do something special, get them a card and tell them how much their friendship means to you. But do yourself a favor and wait until you're no more than 10months or so out.

Or, just ask them in person, no expense 😊

I bought a card (one meant to thank someone for their friendship), then wrote a poem at the bottom asking her to be a bridesmaid.

I just asked them each when I hung out with them. Hey will you be a bridesmaid? Doesn’t have to be a huge production. I will give gifts at the rehearsal. I got them Swarovski necklaces.

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I know this isn't popular opinion, but personally I feel that the whole bridesmaids proposal is just making a big deal out of nothing. I am not speaking ill of others that go that route, to each their own. I am just very laid back, as well are my friends. All I did was call each lady and said "You mean a lot to me and (fiancé) and I value our friendship dearly. I would love for you to be a bridesmaid in our wedding. Will you?". Granted I also am skipping the engagement photo shoot and I don't want a shower.

I gave mine a proposal box! i only have two of them and waited until both of their birthdays to give it to them ! but both of them absolutely loved them! and I'm pretty sure I'm skipping out on the "bridesmaids gifts" on the actual day of the wedding.

Also both girls knew before hand that they would be in my wedding party