How to ask for cash without asking?

Zero registry if you don't want any physical gifts. You don't need a jar or cute poem. People know cash is a good gift. I rarely see physical gifts at wedding. I would be put off if a couple's parents were telling me to give money at the wedding.

As for a honeymoon/money jar/dollar dance, I think they are pretty rude. People claim they are cultural, but that is usually not the case for most. Asking for money just isn't something you should do.

We preferred cash as gifts. We did small registries that we did not replenish after they were bought out. People know cash is preferred and if not they ask others, Reddit, or forums like ours and we let them know!

The Knot fund registries. Put whatever you want - honeymoon fund, date night, cooking class, city tour, new couch, food subscription - doesn't matter because it's actually all cash that goes to your bank account. People just like to think they are buying you something specific.

Don't register for gifts anywhere.

Some frown on this but "no boxed gifts" on the invitation works as well.

Hey! We did not advertise on our wedding website or invites that we had a registry. In fact, we specifically stated that we did not want people to feel obligated to bring gifts.

That being said, we still created a registry (a very small one on Amazon) that was available on request although we never mentioned it to anyone. It worked out because folks from out of town who couldn't attend asked about it so that they wouldn't have to mail cash/checks across the country.

We did consider the money dance (my FW is Mexican), but decided against it. I definitely agree that it seems to be more acceptable in certain cultures, and it can be super fun!

I had no registry and still ended up getting a few glasses, towels, etc.