How to Ask a New Bridesmaid??

No there is no way in my opinion. Are you asking someone so the numbers are the same? I feel you have had your wedding party set for awhile and at this point asking someone they would feel like a back up because someone had to step down which can make them feel awkward. I am sure you may not love it but I would be down one bridesmaid.

My cousin asked me as a second Choice. Her friend got a job that required her to move and couldn’t make it back for the wedding.
I was just excited to be Included.

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This is a good point. It depends on the person. I would take it as I am a back up but she had that happen to her and she was excited. I guess depends on your friend.

It’s difficult not to make them sound like a backup when that’s what they are.

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View Quoted Comment That's how I'm hoping she would feel.

View Quoted Comment Yea. I see both sides to that. I feel like she wouldn't be offended but I guess I wouldn't know unless I ask.

View Quoted Comment Yea, understandable. Thanks.

You can't really do that without making them feel like a second choice, no matter how nicely you say it. You're simply down one less bridesmaid. People manage all the time, you will be fine.

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I feel like the only time you can ask someone midway to be a bridesmaid without them feeling like the second choice is if they’re a new friend who you met recently after you’d asked your other friends to be bridesmaids. Very tricky otherwise and I personally would be a little annoyed / wouldn’t accept the role if I made the cut only because someone else stepped down

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I think there’s a way to go about it.. you could say how much you wanted them and it was hard to stick to only XX number because you wanted to include her. Unfortunately one of your bridesmaids backed out which stinks but is also a blessing because you can ask her which you wanted all along.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Melissa!

I was asked to be in a friends wedding after someone sad they couldn’t be asked in it. That person didn’t even come to her wedding and the bride was so happy with how things turned out. It felt more right to her anyway. I asked my friend to be a bridesmaid after my cousin stepped down as my second MOH. My friend was so excited I could barely get the question out. I think it just has to do with the person. The honor is in being asked, not all the drama queen extra stuff.

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Thank you!

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No. Simply do not replace her. She will know she’s a replacement and that’s rude