How to ask a bridesmaid to step down/tell her she's not in the bridal party anymore.

Your wedding is in one month, if she hasn't gotten her dress yet I would think she's the one not wanting to be in it.

Are you ordering dresses from somewhere or hoping to get them off the rack?

Your wedding is right around the corner and she still doesn't have her dress? I would say sorry but I think it's best if you step down as bridesmaid FH and I want to have a smaller wedding party than we had planned ? Maybe that would work

Yeah my poor fh is highly pissed right now because two of his guys haven't been in to be measured for their tuxs. He told me yesterday if they don't get their crap together he needs back ups. The sad part is both guys are family....He has bugged them for some time now and he barely gets a response back from them. I say If you need a replacement find someone you know you can count on. Do it as soon as possible though, like the other ladies pointed out...if you have to order a dress it doesn't leave time at all.

One of my bm asked me why I invited so and so... (mind you her and I are very close) I just simply said, its my wedding and it really isnt your concern or business who I choose to invite to my wedding.. She got the hint and backed off.

She says she has a dress(one that she already owns, which I'm fine with. I told the girls the colors and let them have at it, so long as they send me pics before purchasing to get approval.) After she told me she had a dress, I asked her something that required a response, but never got anything back(this was about a week ago.)

I've tried engaging her in conversation several times about being in the wedding, etc, but like I've said, she's been very unresponsive. And I've tried telling her it's my wedding and whatnot, but she didn't seem to get the hint. When she got on my case again about someone not being invited(asking if so and so was invited or not), I came thisclose to telling her to have her own wedding if she wants to invite everyone she's ever known from everywhere. I feel very childish even bringing that up, heh.

I might mention having a smaller, evened out wedding party because my fiance might have one of his best friends coming out who previously said she couldn't, which would make it even on both sides.

Just remember, it doesn't have to be even on both sides! I've even had weddings with no wedding party!

I had the same problem with a couple. We were very close to the girl and guy. The girl and I were still talking but the guy was totally ignoring FH so one night he got disgusted and said that is it he's out. I still wanted the girl (We hadn't had the opportunity to even tell the guy he was out yet) She stopped texting or emailing any responses regarding dresses. I couldn't get a response for anything. So I just took her out. I am guessing they both got the hint when we sent out the save the dates and they weren't on the website under bridal party. My thing is if they are going to ignore you during the planning what makes you think they will show up for the important parts. I say cut your losses and talk to her. Good luck!

I would have a good talk with her face to face.. No phone or text messaging expressing to her how you feel.. If after you talk with her and she's still acting funny, then you need to kick her out.. You could have two groomsmen walk down the aisle with one BM.. Hope things work out.. It sucks to have to stress about this stuff.. It's suppose to be a happy time for you!!