How to approach bridesmaid/ cousin

Please calm down. First of all, a 16 YO measurements may change in a year. so may others. I would be pissed if you wanted my measurements a year in advance. You may want to get all rolling, but you need to give this some time. You are way ahead of schedule.

I wouldn't take measurements for dresses this early. A LOT can happen in a years time. Weight gain/loss, pregnancy, not to mention she's only 16 so I'm sure her body still has some growing left. I would wait at least 6 months before jumping on this, but that's just my opinion.

I agree with the others. Sizing, especially in a 16 year old girl, can change dramatically in a year's time. Bridesmaid dresses don't take that long to come in, especially from Azazie. I would wait until you are 6 months out to worry about sizing and ordering dresses.

Can't the girls just order their own dresses? I used Azazie and had 9 bridesmaids, they all ordered their own dresses. Some ordered as early as 10 months out and some as late as 3 months out. I can't imagine getting measurements an entire year out, body shapes & sizes will for sure change.

I'd definitely recommend getting swatches from Azazie. If those aren't enough to help you decide, you can try ordering dresses for them to try on, but I'd definitely make it clear that nothing will be set in stone until much later. As for timelines - I had my girls order their dresses from Azazie about 4 months out, and they all were delivered within 3 weeks.

I would just not include her in the try on and have 2 bridesmaids do the try on. I picked a color without doing full try ons, I just ordered sample dresses and laid them next to each other and got the same idea. I'm sure the BM can pick a dress style online without trying it on.

They can order the sample dresses if they want themselves. You're putting unnecessary stress on yourself by being this involved so early.

You get a free swatch from Azazie just by signing up for emails. Then a swatch is only $2 after that. They also have swatch books with multiple colors in one for like $10.

Buy color swatches from Azazie! That will help you know exactly what color. Also, with the try at home thing, you don't always get to try the dress you want in the right color. Basically each dress only has a few sizes available in only a few colors. I ran into this problem too so I basically got whatever dress for them to try because we were trying it more for size then anything else.

As others mentioned, it's way too early for bridesmaid dress shopping. That normally occurs 6 months before your wedding. If you do it earlier you'll be flooded with "My dress doesn't fit" texts 2 weeks before your wedding and you'll want to pull your hair out. Also, at age 16 especially when school first starts, this kind of stuff isn't a priority to a young girl. When your wedding is closer, tell your bridesmaid's mom to measure her.

Maybe she's embarrassed by her measurements and would rather just look up her dress size on the Azzazie size chart. I would just ask her what dress size she would like to use on the test dresses. That doesn't take any effort on her part, she already knows her own dress size.

Hey girl, I'm a little less than a year out from my wedding, but it's been a month or two that Ive known what bridesmaid dress I wanted and I got them online. Since all my girls are close by, it wasn't an issue to bring them a small and medium of the dress I ordered and have them see which one fit, and the dresses had a 14 day return policy if I didn't like them irl. Size isn't a huge issue since they're actually maternity dresses (I have photos on my profile I promise they aren't super weird lol) so it's just if the bust fits really. I guess what I'm saying is you aren't totally rude or crazy or anything for wanting to have this done! But it seems like logistically it won't work super well in your situation since the dresses you want are fitted, if that were the case I probably would have just grabbed swatches, read reviews on if the dresses were good irl and waited it out. Also since your girls are busy, logistically, not working out for you to know this early. They signed on to be focused on you and getting a dress a little later down the road, especially with school starting, she's probably like "whoa, I didn't sign on to do this riiiight now, I thought all the wedding stuff was later and I know I am good to go then, but I can't do wedding stuff now." Just shoot her a text and go "Hey! I just realized school is starting up and you're probably crazy busy, plus measurements change and I should probably wait on that anyway! I'll ask you about it again in 6 months, good luck with your first few weeks!"