I understand that a lot of my invitees are having tough times and I'm immensely grateful for the gifts I received foe my bridal shower bit many people went in on gifts.. for example, my cousins and her daughter and daughter in law (ages 58, 32 and 29) got together on a gift. they don't all live in the same house. we are not "thank you card" people (it's not something we culturally do so it wouldn't be weird or rude to not give a thank you at all, especially for a shower) but I still wanted to acknowledge the gift and effort. should I address it to whomever was the obvious giver (the matriarch usually) or send cards to the individual girls?