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How to address invites with plus ones

Bri, on October 18, 2020 at 7:49 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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Hello! My fiance and I are getting ready to send out our save the dates for our wedding next spring. There are a couple cousins/siblings that are invited that still live with their parents and so would receive the same invite; however, have longstanding girlfriends/boyfriends that will also be invited as their plus ones since they have been in the family for a few years and are at all the family gatherings. For example, my fiances sister still lives at home with his parents, but has a boyfriend that will be invited. His other siblings who live at home still don't have significant others and so won't be given a plus ones. How should I word the invite so that it is clear who is invited? I'm worried if I put + guest it would seem like everyone gets a plus one, but it also seems odd to name the significant other as they do not live in the same house. Should I just send their boyfriend/girlfriend a separate invite?

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Latest activity by mrswinteriscoming, on October 18, 2020 at 11:14 PM

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Michele · on October 18, 2020 at 7:56 PM
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Erin · on October 18, 2020 at 7:58 PM
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Either send a separate invite for the sister and her bf , or just add his name on the family invite... im just adding my sister’s boyfriend’s name in with my family just so i can save money. He is 17 years old, i dont know him that well, he lives at home with his parents, so yeh.. im going the cheap route lol
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Veronica · on October 18, 2020 at 8:06 PM
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Adult children should receive their own invite even though they live at home. For example, my husband's cousin and his fiancée still live with his parents so we sent one invite to the parents and a separate invite to the cousin and fiancée since they are adults.
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Nicole · on October 18, 2020 at 8:11 PM
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Exactly this. One of my husband's cousins still lives at home with her father, but has a long-time boyfriend. We sent one invitation to her father and one invitation to the cousin and her boyfriend.
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Caytlyn · on October 18, 2020 at 8:12 PM
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She should receive her own invitation and it should be addressed to her significant other by name. It’s very rude to call someone’s significant other “guest,” they have a name.
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Stacey · on October 18, 2020 at 9:23 PM
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All adult children should receive their own invitation, even if they still live with their parents.
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Vicky · on October 18, 2020 at 10:34 PM
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Adults should receive their own invitations, regardless of where they are living. Their guests should be listed on the invitation with them, by name.
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Ashley · on October 18, 2020 at 10:40 PM
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Anyone 18 or older should be getting their own invitation, regardless of living situation. That way, you can address it to both people who are invited.
If they’re under 18 and allowed to bring a significant other, it’s a bit trickier. You could still send a separate invite, or you can simply include the other person’s name on the invitation. The other option would be to simply tell them that person is also invited (although that’s not really proper etiquette at all lol)
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mrswinteriscoming · on October 18, 2020 at 11:14 PM
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We are only giving +1s out to everyone we know in a committed relationship, or to those who we know will want to bring someone of their choice and we are allowing it (i.e. a good friend of mine who literally knows no one else coming).
For guests with +1 known: “Mr John Doe and Ms Jane Roe”

For guests without nominated +1: “Mr John Doe and Guest”
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