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How to address invites and rsvp

Future Mrs. T, on May 23, 2020 at 1:40 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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So this may be odd but there’s a family friend of my mom that I would like to invite the parents and the daughter as they’ve been closer to our family. They also have two sons who we do not really speak to and never have really in the time we’ve known them. How should I go about addressing the invitations? List those I want to invite by first name?

Another situation I have is that for the RSVPs, I don’t have a whole lot of space to write names. I purposely got RSVPs without the “M” prewritten in to give me more wiggle room. How should I write their names too? Should I just stick with first and last so they know who is invited?

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Latest activity by Elizabeth, on May 23, 2020 at 2:52 PM

Champion October 2018
Kelly · on May 23, 2020 at 1:49 PM
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If the daughter is an adult then you would send her her own invitation.
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Future Mrs. T · on May 23, 2020 at 1:50 PM
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Sorry I forgot to write that the daughter still lives at home. She’s 18. One of the sons lives at home still too. I just don’t want things to be awkward.
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Kelly · on May 23, 2020 at 1:52 PM
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I would still send her her own invite since she’s 18. We did this with several guests.
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Hannah · on May 23, 2020 at 2:03 PM
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As Kelly said, send 1 invitation to the parents and 1 invitation to the daughter. As far as the RSVPs go, I've never seen those pre-filled. The individual/couple/family who is RSVPing will write the names or all people that are RSVPing yes/no the event. Sometimes, what couples have done, including myself, is number the RSVP cards in a corner to coordinate with a spreadsheet so that they can identify the card if the person forgot to write the names. The issue with pre-filling is not everyone from that family may be a yes. For instance, I invited a friend from work along with her husband and 2 kids. She opted to RSVP for herself only and leave husband at home with the kids, so she only wrote in her name.
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Jana · on May 23, 2020 at 2:17 PM
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Either send an invite to the whole family or specifically list those them on the outer envelope.

Are you making your own reply cards? Skip the M and print out their names.
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Elizabeth · on May 23, 2020 at 2:52 PM
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I agree with the suggestion to send her her own invitation. Then you can specify just the parents on the one invitation and only send an additional one to the daughter, not the sons. Then it's clear who is and isn't invited without having to scrunch it all on one card.
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