How soon would you start planning a semi destination wedding?

Me and my fiancé are on different wave lengths right now when it comes to planning our wedding. We got engaged June 16, 2019 and plan to have our wedding April 4th 2021. I started researching and planning about a week after he proposed as we already live together and have talked about our wedding and future life plans, so to me the proposal was a green light.

He has been back and forth on everything. He will say it’s my day do whatever I want but then he wants to be involved as it’s our day but then I’ll show him ideas and he’ll tell me no or say he wants the opposite and then we circle around to the middle ground. I got him to sit down and look at the potential guest list for numbers as we have a budget. He originally refused to take a trip to Texas (we live in New Mexico) to look at venues but after I explained to him that we weren’t booking a venue that we haven’t seen in person, we are taking a trip for Labour Day to look at a couple places.

We we are also a military couple. My dad served 24yrs and he’s currently serving. We are having the wedding in TX so that his family will even show up but that makes it a destination wedding for my family that lives mainly on the northeast coast.

I feel like I should have a general time line done and out early so my family can be present to celebrate with me. But he thinks I’m doing to much. That sending invites out 6 months prior is enough.

Thought?